DP has been left an estate in a will ...

[spidersnope]

First off I've got no interest in anyone else's money , I'm just questioning what future complications this could throw up for a couple.

Between leaving his ex and meeting myself my dp has been left an estate , around £500k

Good for him. However the will stipulates that should he marry the spouse is to receive no benefit from the estate .

We're only a few years in and I've got no intention of moving in together or marriage just yet but this kind of puts me off.

So A. How would this work realistically and B, how would you feel about this?

The person with the will is still very much with us so this would be something far down the line hopefully

Wow I'm glad you saw those messages.

@spidersnope onwards and upwards, I'm sorry this happened just before Christmas but it was highly dysfunctional anyway, and the fact is all you had was his word on everything, and it sounds quite likely that he is the one obsessed with her rather than her clinging to him, although it may be mutual. Whatever- leave them to it. You have won as you are not the third wheel in their very strange relationship any more and he's able to fully focus on her. Have you ever thought it may be her who does not want to settle down with him rather than the other way around. I mean his parents seem to think they are almost an item?

Have a wonderful day with your dad and your good friend and I have no doubt the following year will be much more peaceful and calmer than without this nagging issue at the back of your mind.

From those messages it reads as if he was trying to create an us against you dynamic with her.

Highly manipulative of him.
You are well rid.
This is definitely about money for him.

Happy Christmas.

Yes, cake and eat it springs to mind.

Hope you're doing okay @spidersnope and are with family who are supporting you over Christmas. All the best 🎄