Anyone on here actually got a decent man?

[ALMummy]

I am curious to know whether anyone on MN actually has a DH or DP who does all or most of the following:

1. Is faithful
2. Does not behave abusively towards you either physically, verbally or emotionally in any way.
3. Is fair when it comes to finances.
4. Helps with housework and childcare.
5. Is supportive about things that are important to you.

I ask this because I read so many sad stories on here and in RL my friends all seem to have utter pigs for partners and I am beginning to wonder if ANYONE actually has a decent relationship, do they actually exist? How common is it? Am I living in Cloud Cuckoo land to expect any or all of the above?

yes me although I still find things to moan about
shame on me, will be grateful more often

mine ticks all of the above.

yes, my dh ticks all the above boxes. He can be bloody annoying at times, but I'm lucky to have him.

Yes, I have a lovely DH. He's my second, the first one was kind but crap.

Mine also makes me laugh which is marvellous.

Mine's lovely. But I still reserve the right to moan!!

Me.

yes, my dh also - all of the above plus so much more

I'm sure the majorty of men are gooduns.. people just generally talk about things they want to moan about lol

When I find one, I'll be sure to get my claws right into him

I have to say, my dh is pretty good. Not so grand on the housework front, but all the other boxes are ticked. He is fab with the girls - far more patient.

Me - although I do more than him on childcare - but he's still lovely.

Sorry that you've not been as lucky in finding one - although I do think that they may be in short supply.

Mine is all those and more.

Me! He has his moments, but I am far worse and I love him to bits for putting up with me

Mine doesn't help with the housework, which irritates me but he is kind of let off at the moment because of his long hours and the fact that the house is mine and housemate's, not his.

But other than that he's just about perfect [soppy smilie]

yup me, he's absolutely amazing in every way! needs a bit of nagging to take the rubbish out occasionally but apart from that amazing. what a lovely idea to have a DP/DH appreciation thread!
so no Almummy, you're not in Cloud cuckoo land to expect all of your boxes to be ticked...it is possible.

1. My husband and I both have moral absolutes when it comes to being faithful.
2. Doesn't even swear in front of women (lick arse )
3. We split all bills down the middle & split the rest between us even though he typically earns more.
4. Helps with house work and childcare, even if he doesn't tidy in the same way as I do
5. Is very supportive. When I cried and told him I was considering not carrying on to my next study level, he just asked what he could do to help because he knows I do want to.

I look around at some of my friends and they are married or involved with some complete shits. one girl, her husband has had about four affairs that I know of.

I walk in my front door, where it is me, my husband and my daughter, and I thank God for what I have

Yes - sometimes needs prompting on the housework but so do I.

oh, and I second what ExtraFancy said about loving him to bits for putting up with me

for the record, that's me loving my DP for putting up with me. Not me loving ExtraFancy's DP/DH for putting up with her!

Mine ticks those boxes, but I do wish he would learn how to use the washing machine!

Mine fufils 1. 2. 3. and 5.

Not 4. but that tbh is because his work day rarely finishes before 8pm and I am a SAHM with one child at nursery and one at school

I asked dh and he says he has clothes on...

yes in answer to your questions but I still moan about things...he is very good with the children, but less good with babies (but does chnage nappies)and gets the 2dds ready for school in the mornings and most importantly makes me a cup of tea . HE cooks and tidies (sometimes) but does not clean. HE is grumpy when tired though!

Yes, me. Wouldn't stay around for anything less.

Mine does all of the above. I've got a broken leg at the moment, so he's been doing all of my (many) chores on top of his own and doing all the childcare and holding down a job for the past 6 weeks.

I heart my dh.

Generally speaking, DH ticks all the boxes.

He's not perfect, far from it, but then neither am I .

Yes, he's a decent man, but I reserve the right to moan about him occasionally.

I'll even praise him up now and again, but not too much, or it might seem smug.

yes to all five.

I know I am incredibly lucky.

He also does what I consider to be equally important - listens when I talks, thinks I am amazing, respects my judgement, challenges me intellectually, makes me laugh.

The longer I know him the more I realise how lucky we are to have found each other.