Walked in on my husband mastubating

[JamDonutAddict]

I've been married a few times, but my husband (current and only one I have children with) is the only time I've actually really enjoyed sex. There's alot I could complain about in my relationship but the sex is wonderful. I don't orgasm through direct sex but he can do easily other ways, and I'm happy with that.

He's not. I don't orgasm the way he wants so he's withdrawn pretty much all sex so I'm very fucking depressed.

I walked in on him mastubating yesterday,
exactly what do I do with this?

She was carrying her baby.

Yes. Why is everyone blaming me?

I'm upset because of the lack of enjoyable sex - and literally fake it till you make it?

Why?

@JamDonutAddict for your DH to read….just enjoy each other really. And point him in the right direction. I never with my ExH or my fwb. It didn’t stop me having a hot time and loving it. With my dp I do orgasm every time as he pays attention to what’s making me groan or I direct him to what works. This and his willingness to be guided. The only way I got to this point was exploring my body alone and getting to know or. Good luck, I hope you can both exhorting yourselves again.

But are you legally married? Is it common where you live to have so many ex-husbands?

Sorry some typos there but yes ending sentiment is that I hope you can both enjoy yourselves again.

yes. I once had to explain to an american that shes married

And on that bombshell, the thread takes a completely weird turn.

Yep. I'm waiting for the bit where the OP finally mentions that the sex they're (not) having isn't the sex that we have here in the UK, but is a totally different act and she's previously had to explain to people that other innocent stuff they're doing in actually classed as sex in her mind. 🤣

What?

Im assuming now that you’re not actually married and haven’t been married a few times before either.

Having sex doesn’t mean you are married..
Marriage is a legal thing.

WHAT.??? 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫
This thread is now nuts. I’m not sure any of us are actually sure of anything anymore 😵‍💫😵‍💫
What country are you in OP? What nationality are you?

Not following this anymore?

I've also picked up on the OPs earlier comment of "Both my marriages ended calmly - no court etc"......in the UK you can only end an official marriage thru court. You don't have to go in person, but it has to be officially dissolved by a judge. Never mind whether you're married.....are you actually divorced from the first ones?

Did you meet, marry quickly and have a baby together in a short space of time?

I honestly don't think you are compatible and there is something amiss here.

Why is your DH in a room having a wank while you are about the house caring for your baby? Is that really normal behavior to you? Him lying about the house with his cock out while you're caring for your child?

Um, he is withholding intimacy from you while you are upset because you do not do something exactly how this mentally rigid, likely emotionally avoidant man dictates?!? He is awful. And I don't see how you can now see past this and him without cringing.

He won't sleep with you? Haha. He should be so lucky ... don't lower yourself and make plans to move on.

I don't have any idea why anyone does this. If you want sex to end as a pp suggested then you just say 'I'm bored now'. I have and it worked. If it's with someone you like then you just say it's not working and either stop or continue while working it out together....

This stuff isn't hard and faking it just keeps promoting the fact that that person will expect to do the same thing over and over 'cos it works'.