Walked in on my husband mastubating

[JamDonutAddict]

I've been married a few times, but my husband (current and only one I have children with) is the only time I've actually really enjoyed sex. There's alot I could complain about in my relationship but the sex is wonderful. I don't orgasm through direct sex but he can do easily other ways, and I'm happy with that.

He's not. I don't orgasm the way he wants so he's withdrawn pretty much all sex so I'm very fucking depressed.

I walked in on him mastubating yesterday,
exactly what do I do with this?

I walked in with our new baby to bath, so he said nothing then. I apologised that I had to disturb him to give baby a bath. Later he apologized for touching himself because he knew he'd not given me sex, and he knew mastubating would upset me

Just googled 70-90% of women can't orgasm through intercourse alone. He sounds like a massive fucking baby, having little sulk wanks over his ego.
Do you even want to have sex with him now? .. I don't think I would!

Most women need some external stimulation ti climax.
Some women can climax with intercourse only, but I never have , or even come close.
But i find sex great and very satisfying.
My dh loves a various different type of ways ti bring me organism.
It's all part of the experience.
I did have one boyfriend who claimed all his ex's climaxed during sex (yeah right)....but he never stopped having sex with me.
Maybe your partner feels his ego his bruised (he can't make you come ) so feels a bit of a failure.
Is he a bit insecure generally?

He does seem to prepared to give up on sex - it's upsetting. I wonder why someone so kind and loving during sex feels so bad after he's like this.

I don't like sex with other men. He's the only time I've ever enjoyed sex because he's very gentle and considerate z sp I'm hesitant to give that up - it's very good once a year!

because he knew he'd not given me sex,

@JamDonutAddict
Gross, who an earth does he think he is.. holding his penis like a dangling carrot you need to tip toe around. He literally is a massive wanker.

But surely he knew this before you ever got married I don't understand why it is suddenly a problem for him ?

Sex and marriage were a little close together for us, less than a year. I'm well happy with the sex, I'm upset that he isn't

My previous husband wanked to dirty movies and mags.. 50 plus mags.. I mean.. wtf… we were 27/30. I never knew until I married him and found out as he shuffled his erection back into his trousers, when I walked in the room, and he turned the TV off!. I was well up for sex with him, but it seemed he preferred ‘simple…none emotional or physical sex by video. I divorced him obviously 🙄… his next partner (him 32, she 23) refused to be pissed on in a phone box! She shared that little nugget socially lol 😂

I'm really confused, too?
Why can't he have sex with you?

Can you have orgasms solo?

Are you on any drugs that can suppress them?

Buy a nice vibrator and have a go with that..

Three times in a year is nothing if one is in a relationship.

"he preferred ‘simple…none emotional or physical sex by video" -

Might be what I'm experiencing nicely put.

there is rrrrrr in that word, lol

He sounds foul.
Pissing on women in phone boxes? grim.

Glad you divorced him.

I don't know. I'm literally as clueless as you are right now as to why he won't have sex with me

Three times in a year is not enough for most men {From what I hear, I'm not a man!}
No wonder he bashes the bishop.

I can orgasm solo but I don't care it as it's difficult other ways. I'd like to enjoy having sex together without pressure of orgasm but he's rejected

How long have you actually been together?

Have you asked him?
Sounds really strange why he won't have sex more frequently.

Interesting that you never see responses like this when it is a woman complaining about their partners with ED.

Aint you a charmer

But the volcano is open

FAKE IT!!!!
Loads of women do.

Why?

It was so funny, as his next missus announced it really publicly haha!

I am confused.

Is he saying he doesn’t want sex with you because he feels you don’t enjoy it? And he takes your lack of orgasm as proof you aren’t enjoying it? In which case is more a ‘I am not going to put pressure on you to do something you clearly don’t want to do but say you do to keep me happy’

Or because you don’t orgasm from PIV alone?

Or is it the sex in general he is unhappy with?

Urine fetish is proper british you know 😂

My DP will not finish unless I do. I can’t orgasim during piv and it can take me a while other ways. I got stressed about it and got a mental block. He was great and understanding. Said he was initially upset as he wanted me to finish during piv as he gets a kick out of that. But he wanted me to enjoy it too. We experimented and found a way we both get enjoyment from it. Just took understanding, communication and trying new things. We had fun and found new things to do.

is the relationship worth it? If you can’t be honest and try to please each other without pressure what will be the next controlling thing. Sex is intimate, organic and requires trust. Controlling how someone comes is not any of those things.