Told i don't have the body type

[Tomanyflaws]

Is it ever ok for a man in a relationship to comment on his female partners type of outfits by telling her to wear something that flatters because it's embrassing when everything's hanging i am a plus size ze lady size 16_18 5ft 7 33 he says i dress like im a size 8 something that i definitely am fully aware i ain't is it ok for him to say your fat rolls are hanging out and iv got a pouch so I need to cover up i said i don't want to wear big frumpy baggy clothes like old style granny prints this was in summer when i had denim shorts and a crop top on he's always said he doesn't mind my size but wants me to cover up if he's much in love with me why would he be embarrassed about my body that he wants to hide it under frumpy layers he is now an ex hes wev had long issues he told me it's over thank god but his he unreasonable or is it me??

I am fat. Twice your size and then some no doubt.

You can wear whatever the hell you like but crop tops and shorts is only ever a good look on those with the smallest of bodies.

You do not have to look frumpy. There are loads of lovely clothes that would really suit a fuller figure. There's no reason you can't look amazing. You just can't look amazing in crop tops and leggings.

And that's fine.

Very few can.

Your partner is an arse BTW. If he was worried about your health then fair enough but it seems to be about how you look which is shallow and he could certainly have been kinder about it.

You don't like him watching TV when women are on?

That's not OK. What do you do or say when he watches TV programs with women in them?

I agree I need to be on my own to work on the myself..

I watch to see if looking at the women ar ri make comments she's pretty unlike me depends really.

Ok. What do you think that achieves?

Unreasonable? He thought so and since he dumped you there's not a lot you can do about it.

People are saying you can exercise your rights to wear what you want but he's just exercised his rights not to be seen with you.

Nothing it just happens without even knowing thinking about it sometimes..

That's something you really need to work on or you'll never be happy.
There will always be women thinner and prettier than you, you can't let that rule you or make you miserable.
It's no way to live.

I know I can't it's the reason I'm doing theraphy

It’s not nice for him to speak to you like that. For instance, he could word it better instead of being mean. You know it’s wrong - that’s why you’ve posted on here.

I hope it helps you. You deserve to be happy.

Thank you me to im going to give it a good go anyway iv gone private I managed to get funding to pay for the first few sessions.

He's not being abusive; he's entitled to express his opinions and concerns, just like you. His feelings are valid, just as yours are. Not everyone will appreciate or agree with your fashion choices.

Many people wear clothes that aren’t flattering. Just because something comes in your size doesn’t mean it’s a good choice to wear. It's one thing to wear whatever you like in the privacy of your home, especially if you’re single or alone.

However, you have a husband and children to consider. What you wear reflects your relationship, your children, your self-esteem, self-respect, and how others see your family.

If you wear unflattering or revealing clothes, you might not be viewed as respectable or taken seriously. Do you want your husband and children to face the consequences of your fashion choices?

Even if you were single, you have children to think about. Do you want them to be embarrassed, bullied, or isolated because of how you dress in public? Do you want them to be harassed because others view them the way they view you?

The same applies to your husband. Do you want people to ridicule him for his choice of partner? Could his job opportunities be affected because of how you present yourself, especially with family-oriented companies? Could he lose respect among other men?

Do you want your relationship with your husband and children to improve or suffer? They might not want to be seen with you in public.

There should also be a level of decorum in how you dress at home. Personally, I don’t favor anyone, regardless of size, wearing unflattering or overly revealing clothing. I believe no one should expose too much skin—backs, stomachs, buttocks, breasts, or thighs—in public. Even swimwear should be respectful, as people can enjoy swimming or lounging without revealing too much.

It seems like your husband appreciates your body but not your fashion choices, and he may be trying to help you represent yourself better, sparing you and your family from embarrassment. If this is a deal breaker for you, you can leave him, but keep in mind that you should still present yourself better for the sake of your children.