Didn’t catch that, so I’m rewatching the couch interview now. Going to analyse it as a go along.
Eve starts with her soft victim voice which we never hear when it’s just her and Charlie alone. She begins by saying she didn’t do the task as it wouldn’t be genuine and her walls are up so high. She says if she had been vulnerable and Charlie threw it back in her face it would have absolutely destroyed her. This is classic projection, Charlie hasn’t thrown a single thing back in her face, Charlie was eager for connection, vulnerability and discussions. The only one doing any throwing in the face is eve, every time Charlie has been vulnerable she has hurt her with abandonment, including after her very vulnerable letter, she made it all about her and barely commented on the letter. She therefore threw the letter back in her face. She also throws an incident from the honeymoon in her face on a daily basis, reinforcing that it was all Charlie’s fault for being emotional and not due to any wrongdoing on eves part with her cruel rejecting behaviour. Huge projection, but maybe eve has unhealed trauma (as most narcissists do, as they don’t process relationships, or do what would heal them, or have accountability, they just move on). No point eve going on an intense experiment like this if she can’t even write a basic letter.
Then it moves on to Charlie’s turn to talk as she explains she was head messed thinking they were united but eve was discussing her negatively behind her back.
Then eve moves on to be the victim confiding in her girls about the “abuse” she is suffering. Says she is “trying”. This is a classic narc line when they are doing f all but creating drama. Once again says Charlie throws stuff back in her face every time she “tries”, this is an outright lie. She becomes the victim saying Charlie just hurts her more
. Charlie the rational person that she is could have laid it all bare for everyone at that point but she didn’t, she took accountability for anything she may have done but said she really doesn’t see what more she could do. Then Charlie kindly discusses how the hot and cold lovebombing and the detachment has affected her.
Immediately, eve perceives some threat to her ego, and that she is going to be held accountable for bad behaviour, so she launches into her honeymoon story again, how traumatised she was when Charlie’s essentially emotionally reacted to HER abandonment and switching off. Is this woman even for real? Immediately her voice goes back to how it is when it’s just her an Charlie, the mask is beginning to slip, she has to remind her victim that she is the one to blame for everything “Charlie you know what happened that night, a lot happened” immediately Charlie is apologising… so eve doubles down “what did you do last night, what did you do last night” eve at this point is desperate to have the experts and cast validate her but if you pause the frames there is genuine fear on eves face of the truth coming to light.
This is where it turns around, Charlie says “what did you do last night” and then calls her out to the group about her snooping. Eve Cooly denies it, playing Charlie off as a paranoid liar. “Stop telling lies Charlie, stop telling lies” total gaslighting.
Then here comes the classic narcissistic line from Eve:
”you’ve got your reality and I’ve got mine Charlie, and it’s not true”
gaslighting at its ultimate finest!! Essentially- “I have changed the narrative Charlie, as I always will, my reality is the way this relationship will play out, even if it’s not the truth. I will never be accountable because I will never admit to reality but construct an entire narrative where you are the abuser, the liar, and the mentally unstable one”
Charlie breaks down emotionally as many would with that carefully constructed mind f- ing, and then eve gets called out “eve you’ve lied on the couch today” cue a look of fearful defeat from eve. In normal circumstances that wouldn’t be called out and the narc would be well on the way to making everyone believe their partner has a screw lose and is an abuser, because she’s such a cool and calm liar.
Charlie expresses how much she likes eve but all the empty promises eve has made, eve knows she’s been called out so she’s being super cautious now with her abusiveness, cue the fake voice break/ fake beginning of tears that never manifest as she once again tries to postion charlie being a wacko from a different angle, “I’m so sorry, I really want to try but alarm bells go off in my head, I am trying I am trying” the only alarm bells anyone should be hearing at this point is when eve walks by.
experts quite rightly state Charlie’s character, someone who would walk through fire for someone, and is accountable for wrongdoing, cue eve “I just don’t trust her”. Then eve is gently called out for being a two faced bitch, telling Charlie she wants to work it out and saying different things behind her back to the group. Then eve appeals to the group, who quite frankly are all being too kind to her at this point.
Charlie finally acknowledges she has seen through eves bullshit “you know exactly where you stand with me eve” when she says “just give me a chance” eve looks down and does the millisecond narc smirk, at this point she believes Charlie has definitely written stay where she may have been doubting it since the couch conversation began.
Eve loves this moment where she states she’s chosen to leave and builds up with an apology to make the crash harder (as she thinks it will break Charlie that she’s leaving so her intro is almost implying she’s staying to sort it out)
but….then Charlie calls her out for her bad behaviours and states all that Charlie has done to make it work. Eve looks quite gutted by her leaving. Eve said “keep your head held up high Charlie”- not “stay classy”, I’m not sure what she meant by that, as it’s certainly not what eve was helping her to do while they were in the relationship! Seems like most narcs, she wanted a fearful, pleasing partner who felt ashamed of themself and lucky to have her. If she is like most narcs she will be texting her after this to try to get in her head.
over all, narcs are narcs in every interaction. Eve has her reality and false narrative and she’s sticking to it. Same way all narcs do, when they are falsely accusing you of all sorts with no basis, rewriting things that happened between you so they are the victim etc. God help anyone who gets involved with this woman, as she is not the type to truly self reflect, just to move on and exhibit the same behaviours with someone else.