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Husband left for a week

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Bboo3 · 07/09/2024 18:08

My husband is possibly suffering from depression, he has just been given sertraline, they take up to 6 weeks to kick in fully.
In the mean time he has decided be needs a week break from me and our 3 children, so has moved in with a friend. He said he needs this week to miss me and to decide what he wants going forward. I asked him if there's another woman, and he said there is someone making him happy, but nothing has happened.
I feel like it's emotional abuse, sat here waiting a week to decide whether we are going to fight for our marriage or if he is going to walk away for good.
We have 3 children, 6, 4 and 2. I have told them he's away with work for this week.
I don't know how he can be so cruel. It's been 2 days so far and he's said he's enjoying his time away, he doesn't miss me as of yet, and he feels unsure about our future.
What am I supposed to do? Sit here for a week and let him decide? I am doing everything on my own whilst he is figuring his head out.
Should I just call it a day? We have been together 18 years!! I never thought this would happen. How can he be enjoying his time away when his children are here!
I'm upset, I feel sick, I don't sleep, I feel angry. I want him to come back and work on things like a grown up. But will I be a le to trust him now. Urgh!!!!!!!!!

OP posts:
possomblossom · 18/07/2025 18:36

@Bboo3 hope you are doing ok. Sending my best wishes to you and your children.

TheElatedPinkBird · 19/07/2025 08:44

What a cheek ,what about what you want ,I would be telling him to get gone for good

Copperoliverbear · 03/08/2025 20:40

Change the locks, he has left in the hope something will happen if it hasn’t already.
you don’t need another child you need a man, pack up all his stuff and drop it to his friends, he will use this time to spend with this woman and keep his options open dump him first.

Copperoliverbear · 03/08/2025 20:42

Sorry posted without reading it All. X

Littlejellyuk · 07/08/2025 14:41

Bboo3 · 11/12/2024 13:50

It's a signed agreement that our solicitors created. If it doesnt get stuck to we will move to mediation. And I will fight to say the children are too young and the relationship is too new.
Im not arguing about the legal side of it. I just wanted opinions on whether 3 months is a suitable time together to introduce a new partner?

I've just rtft and honestly felt sick reading this. This pond-life of a man is boiling my piss. 😠 😡 😤 He is a disgrace.
You are a very strong, amazing lady 💎
I hope you and your children are having a fantastic summer, as you truly deserve it.
Hugs to you 🫂

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