Tinder date did not go well 🫣

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After almost 3 weeks of texting non stop talking daily etc etc I finally met up with my tinder date. We met up and went back to his and in his words he freaked out. Said this happened with a girl he met last year and he just left. He’s been texting me since and keeps saying it’s not me it’s him he gets paranoid about things etc. I know he’s had some stuff go on the past couple of years and he’s an overthinker but he couldn’t get me out of there quick enough. He was like nice to meet you anyway even though Im really random. Then starts texting me at 1am in the morning saying he’s feeling naughty. Confused is an understatement. Maybe I should just stop communication with him 🤷‍♀️

Uh yes. Stop talking to him. This is not worth your time.

That sounds awkward. What happened before you went to his? Did you have coffee/drinks/dinner or something, and did this go well?

Sounds like an oddball. Drop like a hot brick.

but I’m interested what his problem is- how old is he? Any chance he’s very inexperienced?

No. He’s been texting me for weeks saying he wanted to meet up and be naughty basically, then when it came down to it he said he couldn’t, I said it doesn’t matter let’s just have a coffee and chill out for a bit, we managed about a hour before he took me back home 🫣

He’s 40 just a couple of years younger than me

Stop wasting anymore time - you want a partner (or at least a good time) not a project.

Block him hun. Everyone has the right to back out if it doesn't feel comfortable, he did that. He doesn't to keep texting you when he wants you to service him afterwards.

You deserve better. Casual dating shouldn't have that much baggage.

He’s a headworker. Block him.

previously Married ? Any chance he’s sexually inexperienced?

I’d guess he’s either married, can’t get it up or is a virgin. ( married least likely since he brought you home)

having been a recent veteran of 40+ online dating, I’d say there are a lot of very messed up men there. Quite a few are terrible at sex - the concentration of oddballs in the dating pool increases as you get older I’m afraid

What’s a head worker?

Yep. He’s been texting since saying it’s not me it’s him he freaks out a lot but doesn’t want me to stop texting him. 🙄🫣🤷‍♀️

Previous weed user?

He’s right about one thing. It’s him - not you!

Dont waste anymore time on this one

Stop texting him. Give up. There is really no need for you to go through all of this just for a shag.

Using the word naughty would be a deal breaker for me.

It wasn’t just about sex though for me, he’s cute, we had a lot in common, but 🤷‍♀️

Block him, how is this even a question?

Just block him and move on.

This guy is obviously a head fucker, what's the point?

You are worth more, please believe that.

For future dates with other men I don't think it is at all advisable to go back to their place on the first meet.

he freaks out a lot but doesn’t want me to stop texting him. 🙄🫣🤷‍♀️

Oh ffs, just block him, he’s a complete mess

He did say he’s in therapy and thinks he may have adhd which may explain things.

It's obvious he just wants sex as that was all your first meeting was going to be

Life is too short for this shit OP.

Dump.
Do you really want a 40 year old mess?

Really - no. He’s just wants you for occasional sex. Most likely his ‘I have issues’ spiel is to make you feel sorry for him and let him have all the control because you’ll feel guilty if you put your foot down. Any time you express your needs, his will be brought up and take precedence.

We don’t do outreach by dating. And you are not his therapist.