Tinder date did not go well 🫣

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After almost 3 weeks of texting non stop talking daily etc etc I finally met up with my tinder date. We met up and went back to his and in his words he freaked out. Said this happened with a girl he met last year and he just left. He’s been texting me since and keeps saying it’s not me it’s him he gets paranoid about things etc. I know he’s had some stuff go on the past couple of years and he’s an overthinker but he couldn’t get me out of there quick enough. He was like nice to meet you anyway even though Im really random. Then starts texting me at 1am in the morning saying he’s feeling naughty. Confused is an understatement. Maybe I should just stop communication with him 🤷‍♀️

Testing your boundaries, can he get away with treating you like crap, but still use you for free therapy and sexting. Bin.

Why on earth did you text asking him that?! He invited you back to his, bottled it and threw you out and you're asking him if he wants to meet up again?!

Fuck me. The amount of women on here who literally let men do whatever the hell they want and still chase after them is tragic...

You’ve got a point there 🥺

Yes, please be more safety aware. On this occasion, block.

Divorce can leave a woman emotionally vulnerable. I used to put up with shit but not anymore.

It is the job of psychiatric health care professionals to fix him, not your job. Run away!

Partners not projects. Fuck that. Throw this one back, OP

Wow maybe he’s just very nervous might have anxiety issues which is fine why not say maybe this is to much pressure why not suggest actually meeting up during day go somewhere neutral like a park and say no rush to perform or have sex just get to know each other like old fashioned ways . It can be difficult for some I would hope if if it was a woman that freaked out that you guys would say the man needs more patience

Yes, because all those men are married.

You need to go younger, or you just have the mid life crisis divorce castoffs and those guys like the guy you met.

Oh gawd what a nightmare.

So um, you only spent an hour with him before hand? Did you actually fancy him or have a spark him? Or was it the sex you wanted? I'm not judging at all, I've done something similar but we spent more than an hour together and definitely had a spark, were still together.

From what you are saying it doesn't sound like a way to enter a committed relationship and now he's wanting more so now obviously you need to block him.

He’s one of those texter guys I used to meet them all the time - they have zero interest in real life relationships just want someone to text in the evening and it never goes anywhere

he probably texting several people

Really or it’s a man that’s got a bit of anxiety so tell me if a woman freaked out about having sex got a bit overwhelmed would you say oh teh man needs a bit of patience I be5 you would it’s a lot of pressure sometimes maybe take it slower

If someone texted me that they wanted to 'be naughty', my vagina would seal itself shut.

But they didn’t have sex. Sounds like the poor guy has anxiety.

Bin and block. No need to waste any more time.

I certainly wouldn’t be up for the stress and anxiety that having a partner/friend/FWB who regularly “freaks out” on me would bring.

Please could you clarify what you mean by " he freaked out "?

He’s testing how easy you are to manipulate. Red flag 🚩 run.

Exactly, and quite honestly I am quite a bit disgusting have so many people don’t have a patience for people that might have anxiety. The poor man might of wanted to do stuff but maybe he can’t and why not meet up in person to try to get to know somebody first I know that sounds old-fashioned, but I don’t understand why people don’t

Put this one back you’re not there to train a puppy.

Right. Anxiety. Explains why he then started texting her at 1am going on again about "naughty" stuff.

FGS. Stop making excuses for scummy weirdos.

He’s not manipulating her quite literally probably wanted to have sex couldn’t do it had a bit of a freak out maybe it’s anxiety I think it probably is anxiety but yet yet if it was the other way round if it was a woman you guys should be saying oh, the man needs to have patience

God op keep yourself safe and block people like this immediately

btw. really unsafe to go back to a strangers house . And yes he is a total stranger.

Because he probably does want to be naughty, but he can’t do it face-to-face. Sometimes I’m telling you as somebody that has suffered with her mental health in the past. I understand it’s easier saying stuff in words than it is doing it in person maybe he doesn’t like his body maybe he freaks out a little bit. Maybe he’s got anxiety maybe something she should be asking him about rather than posting on here

Does he work? Is he isolated and spend alot of time at home? Maybe he is confident on the phone but face to face he's not confident. Maybe he's neurodiverse? Any history of drug use (or mention that he is clean/sober) Past drug use can cause intense paranoia. If he was using you for sex though as others have said - he would have had sex, not freaked out and ran.

My bet is he is interested but he is reclusive, introvert and self conscience - you can decide if there is enough interest on your end to work on things. The word naughty would give me the ick though. Has he had any other relationships?

She doesn’t need to do anything but. He’s a guy off tinder not someone she has a deep relationship with. His problems are for him to sort she doesn’t need to get sucked in to them.