Tinder date did not go well 🫣

[BeRoseScroller]

After almost 3 weeks of texting non stop talking daily etc etc I finally met up with my tinder date. We met up and went back to his and in his words he freaked out. Said this happened with a girl he met last year and he just left. He’s been texting me since and keeps saying it’s not me it’s him he gets paranoid about things etc. I know he’s had some stuff go on the past couple of years and he’s an overthinker but he couldn’t get me out of there quick enough. He was like nice to meet you anyway even though Im really random. Then starts texting me at 1am in the morning saying he’s feeling naughty. Confused is an understatement. Maybe I should just stop communication with him 🤷‍♀️

Oh and one more thing from me since your here looking for opinions. Please please don't do sexting with relative strangers online. If you are looking for a genuine relationship thats not the impression of yourself you want to give out. All you will do is attract the wrong types.
If you meet someone and it becomes serious & that's your thing between you both that's your business.

Agreed. I’ve learnt that one 💓

This one's a dud.

Stop getting men off the internet.

Start meeting them in real life through shared interests so you get to know what they're actually like as people.

I have read some but not all of the posts.
My first thought was married, looking to cheat, but stopped at the last moment.
So do you know his address?
How near does he live?
How fast does he answer?
Is it like only at certain times?
Any friends in common?
Also you seem to do as your told, why?

Im not immature. Im just quoting the words he used.

Dump. He's too weird.

Bloody hell, almost 40 and he can't even date properly? He's a non starter.

You will never know for sure why he freaked out. But that doesn't matter because it's not worth the energy of caring about. He's not the one. Next....

I'd have blocked him at the words 'be naughty' before I'd even met him. 🤮

No he’s not married, had a bad relationship with his ex so he’s in therapy. Has a stepson who he has every other weekend. Its not unusual for him not to text back as he works long hours etc

When I date, I'm only looking for casual, but I personally still prefer to have an actual date first (ie not just round to theirs/mine for sex). I'm all for casual hookups if that's what both people want - but if it's about more than sex for you, I wouldn't suggest starting it by just going round to his. Though this one needs to go in the bin anyway.

Did you actually like him when you met him? Sexting before meeting can make it feel like it's a done deal and no way to back out. I would say holding your cards close to you chest works better until you're sure what your next step is.

The kindest interpretation of this situation is that this man is simply not well enough to be dating. Don't be tempted to try to help him, or fix him. Just break it off and move on.

Don't meet people who 'text you non stop'.

Google love bombing.
A few messages over maybe a week, then meet for coffee. Figure out if theres chemistry and compatibility in person. If there is then pursue whatever you want from them from there.

No need to be chatting every day for weeks via text with someone you've never even met.

He's nuts.
Or married/in a relationship and hense the freak out.

of course he is and he would like you to join him on the journey. As above, forget/block unless you really want a project. i can fix him!

Naughty

Same!! So cringe

It should be illegal to use that word if you’re over 5 gavel
A 40-year old man using it would make my vagina shut like a clam.

Oh my god please stop texting him @BeRoseScroller 😭

Anxiety or not, as others have said, do you really want this much of a project / effort when you've had ONE DATE with the bloke?!

He's nuts. Lucky escape OP, nice job! Better luck next time.

Shut like a clam 🤣🤣 love it!

Yeah. He text me before asking if I do this often (which I’ve never done before) as he’s paranoid about Sti’s etc - then said he doesn’t normally invite strangers back to his place

Except when he chops them into little pieces, harvests their organs and boils their head for breakfast.

Seriously OP chuck this one back!

Don't waste your time. At best he isn't ready for a relationship, at worst he will string you along and trample over your boundaries/needs and wants because of his "stuff". Move on and look for someone that can offer you a healthy relationship.