Partners family won’t accept me

[FlowerKL]

I met my partner at work last year. Our situation is slightly complicated in that he was married and his wife was pregnant. They ended up splitting up before the baby was born and we left things for a couple of months and then started seeing each other regularly once the baby was born.

The problem now is his family won’t accept me. He’s recently moved in with me and my son, but his parents won’t have anything to do with me and I’m not welcome.

I know the timing of us getting together is bad, I feel bad about it but we fell in love and they are now divorced.
I don’t know how to manage the situation, he was very close to his family. He is happy to support me and stay together, even if it means losing his family in the meantime. Will things settle over time? Is there anything that I can do to try to make amends?

Two losers who deserve each other. I feel sorry for your son though.

Officer Doofy? I've gone weak at the knees on that comeback 😂 😂😂

A year isn't long. Given the back story. Why are you in such a hurry for the family to accept you? I would just leave it tbh!

I have tons of first posts as I name change after every few posts, sometimes after just one

Give it time.

My ExH's family found it difficult to accept the OW after he left me and our three young children to be with her. They came round after a short few months.

Do you still have a relationship with them?

Nothing much beyond birthday/Christmas cards/presents. I very occasionally see them at a pick up or drop off after a big event. We're still connected on FB and they 'like' anything I post about the kids.

My ExH hates me having anything to do with them though and will make up rubbish about me and them to stir the pot.

Surely you can see why they're not welcoming you with open arms?.. or are you blinded by love(!)
If he can throw away a pregnant wife and then newborn for you, then he's hardly a decent man
Are you not wondering if you're just a convenient place to live
Obviously they are doing the best by their newborn Grandson
Shame you can't do the same and leave him alone.

Trying to be positive here in saying look what Charles and Camilla did and yet now she's Queen

Good call - just hang around for over 20 years, OP and eventually they’ll forget they hated you 👑

They see my partner occasionally, less so now we are living together. They initially kept in regular contact with the ex but I think that has gone now. I have met his sister but his parents won’t have anything to do with me.

We are a similar age

Oh come off it. Most people would namechange before starting a thread like this one. Everyone who namechanges to start a new thread looks like a first time poster.

They split up about 2/3 months before the baby was born. We worked together and there was a connection between us, but nothing happened until after she’d had the baby.

We’ve known eachother for nearly 2 years and work together so relationship has progressed quite quickly due to the amount of time we spend together. He gets on well with my son and is trying his hardest to be a good, involved dad to his daughter.

“A little complicated” Op? Come on you were the other woman! His poor wife!

Get pregnant?

How can you think this in anyway justifies your behaviour? She was seven months pregnant.

If you and your partner are happy, I would just accept life as it is, and give it time.

Family dramas cool off after a while, so don’t push it. Get on with you life with your partner.🙂

Really ? She knew his situation, they’re equally to blame.

What is op “to blame” for? She’s single and meets someone who says they are single (he’d left his partner). She hasn’t done anything wrong.

Why would you want to be with a man who dumped his pregnant safe?

*wife

that WAS a quick divorce. most divorces on MN take at least a year ! houses need to be sold. maintenance needs to be agreed . how often he sees his baby is it 50/50 ? etc. etc. etc.

He didn’t say he was single. He was married with pregnant wife when they met, no indication he was saying he was separated. Seems like he separated from her, then immediately got together with OP. Maybe those two things were unrelated but I don’t think anyone would believe that. Tbh op, you and your OH getting together has lost your in-laws a grandchild, at least for now. And separating from a heavily pregnant wife and very quickly shacking up with someone else - they’re not going to accept you for a long time if at all. They’re probably only talking to him at all because he’s their son.