Partner moved in now wants to bring cat

[Alyssah2]

So my partner moved in about a month ago after living with his parents. He has a pet cat. He moved in without the cat and things were going really well. Now his parents and he is saying he has to bring his cat because it’s not his parents responsibility to look after his cat. However I didn’t agree to having his cat stay with us and I wanted a pet free home. I had no intention to have a pet cat and I thought he understood that after he moved in without it. Now they’re saying they come as a package and I have to let his cat in, which I really don’t want to do. I feel that since it’s my house that I bought as a solo homebuyer that I should surely get a say in who I allow into my home. What would you do?

Why. !!!!!!!!!!! WTF. Didn’t you discuss any arrangement's , money , life plans when he moved in.

Let him be with his cat... wherever it's best for you.

I’d say no. He can go back to his parents with his cat if he wants. You’re not in the wrong here nor are you making him give up his pet. He chose to leave his pet and didn’t mention he wanted to come with him initially.

Team cat, all the way.

You let this current boyfriend move in, pay no bills and seem incapable of asking him to move out.

Getting pregnant by this waster of a mummy's boy and taking his cat on is your problem not your boyfriend's, it sounds like he'd be happy with you or without you.

Personally I think you should accept the cat.

I adore cats and would still advocate telling him no. It's your house and you don't want a pet plus it hasn't been properly agreed re payments when you're the one on the mortgage. I would ask him to move back out, and if he's going to move back, ensure things are agreed properly. He doesn't get to dictate terms when it's your property.

You’d rather not live with your child to be with your cat?

So he is actually staying at yours for free, with sex thrown in as well. He's got it made, hasn't he? £200 is probably what he'd spend on food and drink for himself in a given month anyway.

Tell him he has to go back home to mum and dad.

The cat is not the problem here.

A man with a pet cat? Werid AF. And a man who previously 'lived with his parents'??? Run! A sea of red flags!

This post hasn't aged well 😬

A man with a pet cat? Weird AF. And a man who previously 'lived with his parents'??? Run! And parents say 'he comes as a package with a cat'???? A sea of red flags!

What on earth is weird AF about a man with a pet cat????

Our relationship developed again whilst he stayed over and he hasn’t moved since and insists on staying and bringing his cat

OP, tell him to pack his bags. He can’t insist on anything lol it’s your house.

He’s only contributing 200pcm? Why? Does he not work?

If you can’t bring yourself to say that to him just say if he wants to stay it’s a. no cat and b. He has to pull his weight more financially.

My guess is he is more concerned about living with his cat than being a proper partner and father, so he will make that decision for you and leave. It also sounds like his parents are trying to bully you too.

Overall this doesn’t sound like a relationship that will last, he’s there out of convenience. Cut your losses now and don’t make it so comfortable for him.

OP, you should ditch this loser/player person.

Drop him back to his parents house, as he and the cat come as a package, best to reunite them.

Why are you letting him stay if he doesn't contribute financially, do you want to spend the rest of your life with him, with or without his cat.

So.

He stealth moved out of his parents’ house, leaving them with his cat.

He stealth moved into your house, without a cat.

His parents won’t keep the cat.

Are you going to keep him?

(I wouldn’t)

Do you want him to live with you?

If you do you need a proper sit down chat sorting finances.

But tbh, you don't sound like you do. So time to tell him to go home to his cat.

Has the reason he was an ex changed? That's always a good thing to consider when getting back with someone.

I’d say he can move in, but start contributing properly (half the bills and food, plus an appropriate amount of rent, and he pulls his weight with the childcare and housework) and then you’ll consider the cat moving in too.

Anything less and you’ve got yourself a cocklodger, or worse, a cocklodger and a dependent pet that you didn’t want.

And your focusing on the cat?

😂😂😂
Sorry OP, no advice about the (poor) cat!

That is, if you even want him to move in.

Frankly I’d take the cat and kick him out. What a deadbeat.

Drip feed of the decade.
My partner wants to move his cat in.
I don't want it. AIBU?

Drip - by the way we have a kid and he moved in to parent.
WTF OP?