Partner moved in now wants to bring cat

[Alyssah2]

So my partner moved in about a month ago after living with his parents. He has a pet cat. He moved in without the cat and things were going really well. Now his parents and he is saying he has to bring his cat because it’s not his parents responsibility to look after his cat. However I didn’t agree to having his cat stay with us and I wanted a pet free home. I had no intention to have a pet cat and I thought he understood that after he moved in without it. Now they’re saying they come as a package and I have to let his cat in, which I really don’t want to do. I feel that since it’s my house that I bought as a solo homebuyer that I should surely get a say in who I allow into my home. What would you do?

It's your house , you get to say who stays , be it human or animal .
Let him go back to his parents .

He sounds like a cocklodger.

Now I've seen the whole thread.... let him go and be with his cat

He'll have you paying for the cat food next, and pet insurance. Send him home to his mum.

It sounds as if he has not moved in so much as overstayed. As it doesn’t sound as if you have much enthusiasm for him being there he has now outstayed his welcome and should go back home to his parents- he isn’t bringing anything to the table
I bet his parents put the flags out when he moved out of their place

Yep send him back to his parents with the cat. No benefit to you that I can see apart from more work.

If he's your boyfriend, father of your child and you want to be a family, the cat is part of that.

If you don't actually want him to live with you, send him back to his parents to be with the cat.

The cat isn't really the issue.

I think you need to ask him to move back with his parents. He’s taking the piss. Protect yourself and your assets. I like cats but would not want one forced on me. It should be your choice.

What does he say?

He can say no, or he can move back into their house. They don't get to dictate to you.

What are you getting out of it anyroad? 200 quid a month and then 200 quid a month and him to feed? Send him back to his parents. Freeloading fucker

Back he goes OP, to mummy and cat. Best rid of him

£200 per month! That's just a joke.

Come on, OP, you know what you need to do. Let him keep giving you the £200 if that's what the child support payment is meant to be (have you checked it online?) but tell him to bugger off back home, cat and all.

His parents are right, the car isn’t their responsibility but it’s not yours either. Tell this cocklodger that unless he contributes financially and does something with his cat that doesn’t involve bringing it to yours then he’s out the door.

I come as a package with my cats and I wouldn't countenance a relationship with anyone who didn't at least like cats. He needs to dump you and find a cat lover; there are plenty of us about.

And I would never have a relationship with someone who wasn't a cat lover!

Poor cat. I'd be sending his cocklodging 'daddy' straight back to his cat!

He is taking the piss, kick him out

Please, for the love of god, seek therapy as to why your boundaries are so weak and your standards so low. 🙏🏻

Yes, but in this case I think the OP would be better off dumped.

Can we get a posse together to rescue the cat from this all round shit situation?

Because perhaps she didn’t know they came as a package deal.

If you read all the OP’s posts it sounds more as if he just arrived & stayed.

I would tell him to move out for only paying £200 when you pay for everything else.

I think I'd move the cat in and the bloke out and I don't even like cats! Seriously he's completely disrespectful. Show him the door

I’m going to go quietly hit my head against a wall for a few hours. I just don’t understand how things went so awry with young women.

that was a drip feed. A fracking drip feed.

Im trying so hard with my daughter and I’m so very afraid society is going to drown out my voice.

OP, you have a loser on your hands and don't his parents know it.
They are no doubt delighted that you were foolish enough to allow him stay, and now they want rid of his cat too.

Bad enough that you had a child with him.
Wake up and get the loser out.
Do not allow him to bring his cat.
You have chosen to a child with a loser, time to start making better decisions.
Start by getting him out.
Poor child.