Crush on a married man

[Quynhoi09]

I haven't started it! So don't judge me, I didnt even know he was married when I started to crush on him.

So he is a driver and I work in an office and we meet sometimes 4 times a day to every 2 dáy, depending on his workload.

It all started with his strong eye contact. We keep going like this for 4 months already. He is 10 years older than me, green eyes and so confident but mysterious and playful.

It all started when I caught him staring at me and holding my gaze. I mean, he rarely looks away first even now.

He is also clumsy and nervous around me and we often talk and joke and smile when we meet and we like to spend time alone together just talking and staring deep into each other's eyes and the attraction is so obvious that 2 of his other colleagues that also work as drivers started teasing us when they saw us, on different days.

He stare at me when other men come to talk to me as well.

The thing is I asked him out once over text and he said he doesnt have time because he has a family and told me to find someone else.

I did agree and took it as a sign to finally move on. But it didnt end here like I thought. When we meet 3 days later I tried to ingore him but as soon as he meet me he said "Im not upset. Just dont send me texts like that anymore coz if my wife sees she will leave me" and that was it all.

And after a few days I comepletly ignored him, not even look at him, he started lingering around me, like he doesnt wanna go and then he tried to approach me to make jokes or greet me first. Sometimes he also calls me to help him with work related things.

And when he saw me staring at him again he held my gaze for a few seconds, it made me melt. And we keep making eye contact again now , especially before he leaves he will stare at me until he pass me from his car everytime.

He followed my tiktok and sent me a greeting as well when I followed him back.

Sometimes I have to even call him for work related stuff in the evening and he'd tell me that he got home and he'll take my call, why isn't he scared of his wife at home lol.

And why he does all these things if he claims to love his wife so much?

Did you ever had a situation like this? How did it end?

Doesn't sound like anything to me.

What a load of shite. You asked a married man out ?
Grow up

He’s tried to let you down gently, stop bothering him!

I'd say he likes flirting but has been really, really clear that he has a wife and family.

It is obvious from her post that she only found out that he got wife after she invited him out.
This is why people invented wedding rings.

OP, move on.
We meet a lot of people we click with in life.
He gave you clear that he will not leave his family.
Obviously he likes attention and probably likes you but he is clear that is a spot where it stops.
"Best case scenario" you two can continue flirting, end up hooked up at work or after work and that's it.

Men do lie about leaving wives. They don't lie about staying with them when they have a fling.

You can only waste your time, get homewrecker reputatation at work and end up heartbroken.

No worries, you'll be back to school soon.

He has told you he is married.
He is playing games with you.
He probably flirts and plays games with a lot of other young women he comes into contact with in his job. Probably makes his day when he gets the response you are giving him.

Obviously, he's going to get divorced, marry you, and ride off into the sunset with you on a horse.

“Sometimes I have to even call him for work related stuff in the evening and he'd tell me that he got home and he'll take my call, why isn't he scared of his wife at home lol.”

He isn’t scared of his wife because he is taking a work call not talking to a secret girlfriend!! Why do you have to call him in the evening? Are you still at work or at home when you call? Sounds like your doing a lot of chasing, he told you to find someone else as he’s got a family and then he told you not to message him the things you did because he has a wife so your best best is don’t contact unless you have to, obviously at work just talk work, stop staring at him and forget about him

Some people like to flirt but would never ever let things go any further. He's clearly that type. And you are not. He's not done anything that bad other than you took a shine to him and he probably liked the attention.
Just leave him be and find someone single.

He's been clear he is married and doesn't want you. Plenty of people flirt at work, doesn't mean they want anything more.

Why would he hide work related calls from his wife? Stop calling him outside of work hours unless it's urgent. I doubt there's any reason to call that couldn't be communicated in an email or left til the next day.

Ugh find someone available and not married and stop being desperate and a home wrecker … you are clearly wanting him to want more . Leave him alone he’s married to someone else and made a vow and a commitment- stop waving your fanny in his face trying to temp him 🤣

“BobbyBiscuits · Today 13:37
Some people like to flirt but would never ever let things go any further. He's clearly that type. And you are not. He's not done anything that bad other than you took a shine to him and he probably liked the attention.
Just leave him be and find someone single.”

This. Move on. Nothing’s happening here. He’s married and just enjoying a bit of a flirt.

I know its difficult for someone that doesn't know x or y person to really say something, so I do take your opinion as well but my intuition just tell me something is going on.

I dont really think you can take a man at his words, his actions speak more. I say from my experience.

And I just noticed he is a guy with his head in the air. He would get out of his car and give me some documents and then say "oh i forgot to give you some other papers" and he goes one more time he 🤣 or he will tell me "I give you the paper tomorrow" only 15 mins later to get out of the car and come to me 🤣 he does many similar things.

And if we think about it some girls also say "no" as a "yes" and other people have social anxiety so they won't reveal what's really inside their heart. Maybe he felt scared coz I would screenshoot his message and send to his wife or something lol.

He is 10 years older than me its not like i want to spend my life with him. Lol

But the thing about work could also be true "he doesnt have time" since we finish it at 6-7pm evening.

He's playing games. Just ignore him and tell him you find it creepy that he is married and keeps looking at you.
Because you should find it creepy.

It might feel flattering that someone is attracted to you, but the bottom line is it really is not flattering, it's offensive to you that he thinks he can lead you on. And offensive to his wife.

And his flirting games are keeping your mind occupied when you could be finding someone who is actually free.

He’s married ffs !!! Leave him alone you loon

He is 10 years older than me it's not like i want to spend my life with him. Lol

His wife and he promised to spend their lives together. Find someone unattached. LOL? WTF?

The two of you sound horrible and sleazy . Why can’t you find a man your own age who’s single . Think you have been reading too many romance stories with your cringey writing .

He’s married, @Quynhoi09. That should tell you all you need to know. He’s not available. And if he is available, that just tells you he has low morals and is not a good partner. I’m not sure how old you are but you sound quite young. Most of the women posting have been round the block a few times - I’m in my 50s - and we’ve learnt that things often have much less meaning than we thought they did.

Im honest, and this company that i work with 2 other guys "like me" that also told me they have wives and they would hug me and hold my hand, everyday if they can.

Just grow up will you?

Is this a wind up ? It’s still the school holidays

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You don't want to spend your life with him? So you will pursue a married man to have a ons/fling with?

Only women with the lowest of self esteem, zero morals and regard for others would even contemplate this.

Perhaps one day you'll find yourself married to a flirt and with his children. What advice would you give to a woman who was crushing on your husband? Any ideas?