Crush on a married man

[Quynhoi09]

I haven't started it! So don't judge me, I didnt even know he was married when I started to crush on him.

So he is a driver and I work in an office and we meet sometimes 4 times a day to every 2 dáy, depending on his workload.

It all started with his strong eye contact. We keep going like this for 4 months already. He is 10 years older than me, green eyes and so confident but mysterious and playful.

It all started when I caught him staring at me and holding my gaze. I mean, he rarely looks away first even now.

He is also clumsy and nervous around me and we often talk and joke and smile when we meet and we like to spend time alone together just talking and staring deep into each other's eyes and the attraction is so obvious that 2 of his other colleagues that also work as drivers started teasing us when they saw us, on different days.

He stare at me when other men come to talk to me as well.

The thing is I asked him out once over text and he said he doesnt have time because he has a family and told me to find someone else.

I did agree and took it as a sign to finally move on. But it didnt end here like I thought. When we meet 3 days later I tried to ingore him but as soon as he meet me he said "Im not upset. Just dont send me texts like that anymore coz if my wife sees she will leave me" and that was it all.

And after a few days I comepletly ignored him, not even look at him, he started lingering around me, like he doesnt wanna go and then he tried to approach me to make jokes or greet me first. Sometimes he also calls me to help him with work related things.

And when he saw me staring at him again he held my gaze for a few seconds, it made me melt. And we keep making eye contact again now , especially before he leaves he will stare at me until he pass me from his car everytime.

He followed my tiktok and sent me a greeting as well when I followed him back.

Sometimes I have to even call him for work related stuff in the evening and he'd tell me that he got home and he'll take my call, why isn't he scared of his wife at home lol.

And why he does all these things if he claims to love his wife so much?

Did you ever had a situation like this? How did it end?

Clearly with such a flock of married men wanting to hold your hand etc you must be hot stuff, so, why not pick a single man instead of wanting a married one to pop his Willy near you?

Ignore him altogether.
You've already damaged your reputation by staring into each others eyes nonsense whilst your colleagues looked on.

He's married, is playing games and sounds like a creep hitting on younger women.

You sound desperate and naive.

Have some self respect.

You sound quite fond of yourself, not every man that makes eye contact with you wants you or likes you 🙈 this is all in your head. Quit now before you make an absolute fool of yourself

😂

And why he does all these things if he claims to love his wife so much?

He enjoys the attention, ego gratification, flirtation.

He's the type who can't help showing attraction to an attractive young woman.

It doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife.

Anyway plenty of men who think they love their wife, cheat on them. They're still not leaving them though.
They'll be the same ones begging their wives to stay if they're caught.

None if these men are acting right but that's how lots of men act.
It's up to you to be sensible, look after yourself and realise they won't leave their wives, they'll just take whatever you let them and then have lots of excuses as to why they can't leave their wife.

You're wasting your time. Focus on meeting single men and dating.

Time flies and you don't want to find a lot of the good men who want to get into serious relationships ars being taken ...while you waste your time focusing on older married men.

As to why he's not scared of talking to you while his wife is there .... He can say it's a work call.

And he can tell himself he's not lying to her because of is sort of a work call.

This is either a wind up and/or the OP is a bored teenager at the end of the school holidays fantasising about an older man she fancies.

"It all started when..."

It's ok OP, I was once 15 and crushing on a married school bus driver.

Psychopaths stare into your eyes as a form of intimidation and control, he’s imagining what it would be like to lock you in a basement and feed you bread and water.

😂 😂 hilarious comment

All these married men chasing you around and yet you are still single? 🤔

find another man who is single.
I never understood why some women want to be second plate instead of finding a nice single guy and become a real girlfriend..

If he’s staring at you like that he sounds like a creep. Honestly keep away from him.

And if we think about it some girls also say "no" as a "yes"

What does this even mean?

I dont think op will be back with an update.

Maybe he was trying to hypnotise her and he succeeded and she’s in some stupor somewhere

You're fucking delulu woman!

And incredibly arrogant for someone so vacuous/dim......

You work in a village. So everybody knows everyone's business, right? I can guarantee you've already got yourself a reputation as a dumb tart who's available to any man that gives her attention. Start getting a reputation as a proud young woman with high standards instead!

Hint: Going all soppy at married men is not high standards. You're showing the village your low self-worth. If you devalue yourself, everyone else will too.

Methinks she is writing a particularly stupid romance novel.

"Our eyes met as we stood by the copy machine. "How many copies do you need?" I asked him, feeling weak at the sight of his manly jaw and beetle brow. "Just the one, darling." he purred, his voice husky with desire. The soulful depths of his gaze told me, without the need for words, how truly exceptional he finds me. It was inevitable. This had happened with the other men at work, who all seem to be in desperate want of a very special, exquisite woman. They all stare at me, helpless with lust, and breathe hotly down my neck in the stairwell. Obviously, I am so much sexier than their boring wives. Oh, how difficult it is to be irresistible! If only I had enough time in the day to fit all my office soul mates into my busy schedule."

That train has left the station.

Unless you want to be the office bike leave all the married men alone and get some therapy. Just because a guy talks to you it doesn’t mean he wants to be with you.

Are you asking if you should behave like a tart? I mean… no. Obviously don’t be a tart.

ahahahahaaaa this

which part don't you understand? he is married & have family, isn't that enough for you to acknowledge you should not go there?

the way you write makes me think you don't care about anyone one else but yourself