Crush on a married man

[Quynhoi09]

I haven't started it! So don't judge me, I didnt even know he was married when I started to crush on him.

So he is a driver and I work in an office and we meet sometimes 4 times a day to every 2 dáy, depending on his workload.

It all started with his strong eye contact. We keep going like this for 4 months already. He is 10 years older than me, green eyes and so confident but mysterious and playful.

It all started when I caught him staring at me and holding my gaze. I mean, he rarely looks away first even now.

He is also clumsy and nervous around me and we often talk and joke and smile when we meet and we like to spend time alone together just talking and staring deep into each other's eyes and the attraction is so obvious that 2 of his other colleagues that also work as drivers started teasing us when they saw us, on different days.

He stare at me when other men come to talk to me as well.

The thing is I asked him out once over text and he said he doesnt have time because he has a family and told me to find someone else.

I did agree and took it as a sign to finally move on. But it didnt end here like I thought. When we meet 3 days later I tried to ingore him but as soon as he meet me he said "Im not upset. Just dont send me texts like that anymore coz if my wife sees she will leave me" and that was it all.

And after a few days I comepletly ignored him, not even look at him, he started lingering around me, like he doesnt wanna go and then he tried to approach me to make jokes or greet me first. Sometimes he also calls me to help him with work related things.

And when he saw me staring at him again he held my gaze for a few seconds, it made me melt. And we keep making eye contact again now , especially before he leaves he will stare at me until he pass me from his car everytime.

He followed my tiktok and sent me a greeting as well when I followed him back.

Sometimes I have to even call him for work related stuff in the evening and he'd tell me that he got home and he'll take my call, why isn't he scared of his wife at home lol.

And why he does all these things if he claims to love his wife so much?

Did you ever had a situation like this? How did it end?

You’re reading way too much into it.
And what’s with all the staring? Would do my head in tbh.

This made me laugh 😂.

And if we think about it some girls also say "no" as a "yes"

Are you for real? V I L E

So let's judge him by his actions not just his words then as you prefer. He organised and had a wedding, he put a ring on his wife's finger, sounds like he had children with his wife too. He did all this with his wife, not you. He turned you down when you asked for a date. He doesn't want to date you. He went home to his wife instead of on a date with you. He doesn't want to be with you. He's just flirty but he's been clear it won't go any further. It's a total waste of your time

I live in Europe so it might be a culture difference that men here are different than US? And yes, I'm young, in my 20's something

Op half of what you have said gave me the cringe i mean come on its all a fantasy grow up.

Most men flirt to boost their ego.

He's bored and seeking distraction. So are these other two men. Do you want to be 'that woman', OP? The one who doesn't stay away from married men? They are not interested in you, they think that you 'will go there' if they suggest it enough, flirt enough. They think you (and other women) are easy and the first one who bites will be the 'lucky' one. Ugh.

It is so easy to earn a reputation like that - because you are a woman, firstly - and so difficult to get rid of it.

Shut this down. Shut it down now. Whatever is going on in your own life that you feel flattered by this isn't real but you are storing up a heap of trouble for yourself. You are at work, not a dating site. Please, for your own sake, stop it.

"He followed my tik tok" 🤣

A sign of true love 🙄

Oh yes, school holidays. How very sad.

I find it hard to believe a grown woman wrote this bilge. I'm guessing you're maybe 11 or 12?

This website is based in the UK, which is in Europe.

Honey, every man with a pulse (whether they're married or 90 years old) will try and get into a woman's knickers if they can get away with it. It means jack shit. Do you want to be the office tart? Now move on and find someone your own age and unattached to play with.

Unfollow and block him on tick tock.

Tell him flirting at work is inappropriate and if he does it again, you’ll report him to his employer.

Of course he can take work calls if he needs to. His wife will understand you not anyone important, just a colleague.

Shut it down. Work on your self-esteem.

He loves the ego boost of a younger woman fawning over him, it's not rocket science. This is never going anywhere, you can put a stop to it now or continue wasting you time fawning over him, the choice is yours.

Of course they did because that's what married men want to do, hold hands.

Hope you aren't in the UK, keep up the behaviour and you might find yourself pulled up to HR for sexual harassment if you don't leave the married man alone.

Grow up.

Im in Romania, not UK. I think none of the men here have University since they all work as drivers. Most just finish high school and then get a job and I work in a village.

I think OP you really have a problem if you are so desperate for male attention you think having all these married men playing games with you is a good thing.
Try getting some self respect.

Tbh if someone just kept staring at me, I’d be freaked out. You do realise people don’t stare into each other’s eyes for hours, even when they’re in a relationship? It sounds like most other twattish men - has a family but likes the attention. He has no interest in you as a person.

This thread gave me the laugh I needed today 😂
OP, in the nicest possible way you're coming across as desperate. He's said no to a date, told you he's married and told you not to text him. Which part of that reads "yes let's have an affair"
Grow up and find a man of your own

When I was at university I had a summer job one year as a receptionist in a building company for three months. I felt like catnip, all the guys wanted to do this sort of thing. I was 19. One of the visitors asked me for a drink one lunchtime and I went. I didn't know anything about him, but on the way back to work he took a strange turning and stopped the car and tried to touch me, I was horrified but he took it as read. I was really upset and though I didn't say anything at work about what he did I did find out that "Bob is married". I avoided him and I avoided everyone else after that.

Or whisk you away in whatever 'glamorous' vehicle he drives since hes a driver. Honestly Op set the bar a bit higher....and stay away from married men.

Comments are cracking me up today 😂.

This is absolutely pathetic. You’ve offered yourself up on a plate and HE’S STILL SAID NO!! Stop embarrassing yourself and leave this man alone.

OP, you sound about 12 yrs old! 🙄

Jesus. Just back off and find someone single.