Crush on a married man

[Quynhoi09]

I haven't started it! So don't judge me, I didnt even know he was married when I started to crush on him.

So he is a driver and I work in an office and we meet sometimes 4 times a day to every 2 dáy, depending on his workload.

It all started with his strong eye contact. We keep going like this for 4 months already. He is 10 years older than me, green eyes and so confident but mysterious and playful.

It all started when I caught him staring at me and holding my gaze. I mean, he rarely looks away first even now.

He is also clumsy and nervous around me and we often talk and joke and smile when we meet and we like to spend time alone together just talking and staring deep into each other's eyes and the attraction is so obvious that 2 of his other colleagues that also work as drivers started teasing us when they saw us, on different days.

He stare at me when other men come to talk to me as well.

The thing is I asked him out once over text and he said he doesnt have time because he has a family and told me to find someone else.

I did agree and took it as a sign to finally move on. But it didnt end here like I thought. When we meet 3 days later I tried to ingore him but as soon as he meet me he said "Im not upset. Just dont send me texts like that anymore coz if my wife sees she will leave me" and that was it all.

And after a few days I comepletly ignored him, not even look at him, he started lingering around me, like he doesnt wanna go and then he tried to approach me to make jokes or greet me first. Sometimes he also calls me to help him with work related things.

And when he saw me staring at him again he held my gaze for a few seconds, it made me melt. And we keep making eye contact again now , especially before he leaves he will stare at me until he pass me from his car everytime.

He followed my tiktok and sent me a greeting as well when I followed him back.

Sometimes I have to even call him for work related stuff in the evening and he'd tell me that he got home and he'll take my call, why isn't he scared of his wife at home lol.

And why he does all these things if he claims to love his wife so much?

Did you ever had a situation like this? How did it end?

Are you 14?

This is a very odd post . I don’t even know what you are asking .

He has never told you he is attracted to you or wants to take anything further , the only thing you are going on is the fact that he looks at you ? I don’t think that’s anything , but even if it is maybe he does find you attractive or he knows that you are clearly attracted to him so it’s boosting his ego a bit but he has made it abundantly clear that he doesn’t want to do anything about that. He has told you he is married and asked you not to text him! If he was open to betraying his wife , he knows you are clearly attracted to him so he would have pursued that and told you times or other ways to contact him . He’s not interested.

Regardless of all this , why do you want to pursue a married man ? Do you not have any morals ? The fact you also have a boyfriend yourself makes it even worse !

Are you 14?

What a load of fucking shit.

He sounds like an arsehole. He has a wife and family but he is willing to flirt with you, showing that he doesn’t really care about their feelings or yours. You’re all just secondary characters to entertain him, the hero.

You deserve better than scraps from a man who has shown you he doesn’t value loyalty or fidelity. Keep your interactions cool and professional, don’t engage with any flirtation. He’ll soon move on to the next novelty.

This all sounds very “pick me girl”
You sound quite young so the best advice I can give is to stop giving these older men around you so much power in your mind.

Of course they find being around a younger, naive woman exciting. You are less worn down by life than their wives and you are probably flirting like mad in the way that young, insecure women do sometimes do.
You will be making them feel young again but they will think very little more than that about you.

Sorry to be harsh but you honestly sound very naive. It’s time to grow up

“Put the kitten in the basket”…

🤣🤣🤣

good god grow up. I suspect the other 2 men like you because you throw yourself at them and appear ‘easy’, how old are you? 16?. Leave the man alone hes told you hes not interested.no means no, you will be lucky not to get sacked for sexual harassment. ,

Grow up. He's married, he isn't interested in being with you. Get some work done and stop being silly.

But you've posted on a UK forum. And married is married, no matter where you are. From what you say about the other 2 men wanting to hold your hand, etc., it sounds as though you need better boundaries. You should ask yourself two things; why are multiple married men so comfortable "flirting" with you? And why do you enjoy/encourage it?

You are young. Negative reputations are easy to acquire, and very difficult to shed. Other people are noticing your behaviour. You need to stop before they think poorly of you. Yes, he's married, but you will still be blamed.

Wow, you certainly seem like catnip for all these married men don't you?

It's almost starting to sound like some bullshit romantic drivel written by ChatGPT.

But fair play, sounds like you've got your pick, so crack on with all these intense lingering moments and let us know what happens next.

Do you go to work to flirt with men or do you get any work done? You seem to be heading for the label of office trash, have some dignity and decorum.

Couldn't agree more , get some self respect fgs 🙄

Stop it, he's married. Go away you nasty girl and find someone your own age. A married man who behaved like this in front of me would leave me with utter contempt. You sound like you've read too much Mills & Boon. Holding the gaze etc, what bollocks 😂

Are you for real???

No, I guarantee it's a post made up by a bored teenager at the end of the school holidays, who has a crush on an older married man.

If this is real,if in Scotland you'd be known as at two bit Hoor.
Grow up and get some self respect.

Inappropriate to continue to even do anything once you knew he was married disgusting