Crush on a married man

[Quynhoi09]

I haven't started it! So don't judge me, I didnt even know he was married when I started to crush on him.

So he is a driver and I work in an office and we meet sometimes 4 times a day to every 2 dáy, depending on his workload.

It all started with his strong eye contact. We keep going like this for 4 months already. He is 10 years older than me, green eyes and so confident but mysterious and playful.

It all started when I caught him staring at me and holding my gaze. I mean, he rarely looks away first even now.

He is also clumsy and nervous around me and we often talk and joke and smile when we meet and we like to spend time alone together just talking and staring deep into each other's eyes and the attraction is so obvious that 2 of his other colleagues that also work as drivers started teasing us when they saw us, on different days.

He stare at me when other men come to talk to me as well.

The thing is I asked him out once over text and he said he doesnt have time because he has a family and told me to find someone else.

I did agree and took it as a sign to finally move on. But it didnt end here like I thought. When we meet 3 days later I tried to ingore him but as soon as he meet me he said "Im not upset. Just dont send me texts like that anymore coz if my wife sees she will leave me" and that was it all.

And after a few days I comepletly ignored him, not even look at him, he started lingering around me, like he doesnt wanna go and then he tried to approach me to make jokes or greet me first. Sometimes he also calls me to help him with work related things.

And when he saw me staring at him again he held my gaze for a few seconds, it made me melt. And we keep making eye contact again now , especially before he leaves he will stare at me until he pass me from his car everytime.

He followed my tiktok and sent me a greeting as well when I followed him back.

Sometimes I have to even call him for work related stuff in the evening and he'd tell me that he got home and he'll take my call, why isn't he scared of his wife at home lol.

And why he does all these things if he claims to love his wife so much?

Did you ever had a situation like this? How did it end?

Yay I have good news. Finally I realized I dont like him, I only like talking to him, I only need someone to listen to me. i do have a boyfriend and he is Asian for almost 2 years we live together. And I just missed talking to guys of my own nationality.

I talked to him yesterday and realized that. Thank you all for opening my eyes lol.

And the other married men why is it my fault that they dont let me alone? They know my bf and my bf êven come pick me from work many times but they still do it when he isnt around and I told them "hey you have wife!" They will just say "oh so you are jealous on my wife?" Wtf 🤣

And okay, maybe I slept with over 10 guys until 25 years old so I find it an usual thing and 2 of them were married but their wives lived in another country. I only felt a bit of attraction towards them and I see how easy some men sleep with a woman they just met and it doesnt make them bad. Just humans that have a desire. They didnt even show signs they like me, i didnt even thought they would sleep with me so yeah, now I hardly trust men lol

You have to tell them very clearly to leave you alone. You sound like you are passively going along with all of this, going along with what men want. You have a voice, use it.
The fact they have a wide is irrelevant.

They are sexually harassing you in your workplace, and you are basically telling them that the only thing you think is wrong with it is that they are married?!

You're stroking his pathetic ego and making a fool of yourself in the process.

No good will come of this.

Walk away and stop the delusions.

What an odd thread.

Op you sound like a 15 year old just stop.

.............and I see how easy some men sleep with a woman they just met and it doesn't make them bad

It makes them very bad if they're married FGS.

Why. The. Hell. do you keep ending sentences with "lol"?

It's so immature and childish.

@TheShellBeach 11 year olds do tend to be immature and childish 😆

It's your fault they don't leave you alone as you put it because you don't set boundaries with them.

Look at any actors and presenters with those 'eyes' and you will have your answer. Some people just have those eyes. It means NOTHING!

You sound like you’re 12 years old. Dig out your moral compass and put it to good use.

It's like punctuation. So weird.

Because OP is as I previously mentioned a silly little girl with a crush on an older married man, and enjoys writing stories about it.

Grow up. It's all in your head.
You have a crush and are seeing things that aren't there, talking to yourself and convincing yourself there's more to it
Leave the man alone fgs

Stop boosting his ego. You have a crush on him. You'll get over it.

A man who breaks his word by flirting when he’s married is a low value man.
the dregs.
cheap, tawdry, and worthless.

by all means, continue thinking this kind of behavior from a low-value man makes you special, somehow …
or wise up, and find a better value man. These guys are all worth less than the dirt under your feet.

why on earth would you even give them the time of day?

they’ve got someone at home who trusts them, and they act like this. It’s disgusting.

and no, it’s not some kind of testament to how beautiful you are or whatever, that they can’t help themselves, etc etc.
they are low value men: they’d stare at a fucking piece of fruit if it looked enough like boobs.

You’re making an ass of yourself, and it’s embarrassing.

You've already caught feelings, it would never work!

They all see you as easy. The fact you know he has a wife and you think you have a chance as actions speak louder than words.

get some self respect regardless of what country you live in.

"Stare at a piece of fruit if it looked like boobs"
😂

He’s just looking for attention and flirting with you. Sorry you don’t have this deep connection - if there was another attractive woman in your role he would be flirting with her too.
To be honest he sounds like a bit of a creep - I think you might want to consider if you have low self esteem that you are so taken with his sleezy attention.

To be honest OP: This chap is married, you have a BF so...
Why is this conversation happening?

Messsy! Clearly an attraction on both sides.

You’ll never get a relationship as he is married with family.

You could have a fling but might become problematic if it end badly… you'll still have to work with each other.

or you can just continue to flirt and to have banter

PMSL 🤣🤣🤣