To be suspicious of DH .. CONT..

[JustMissNobody]

Hi all,
thank you for your replies, hints and tips. I’ve read them all and made notes. I’m doing ok at the moment, a bit anxious about solicitors app shortly. Had loads of work to catch up today, my heads been a bit foggy and not been able to focus fully.
managed to actually get a good nights sleep last night. Got in bed with a glass of wine and started reading your replies and just woke up this morning with my phone next to me. I don’t know what I’ve been running on but whatever it was must have run out last night!
To answer a few ppl we have 3 DD. 1 completely on dads side, 1 on the fence but thinks I’m acting a bit crazy and need to wait till dh is home to talk and if there is OW then agrees its over, 1 totally thinks he’s been an absolute arsehole and his actions are completely indefensible.
I’ve made a list of questions as suggested here and got all my paperwork together.
ive also found out that his family have been concerned about changes in his character for a while and suspicious of his behaviour and been asking him if he’s ok but he’s just been snappy with them and been avoiding them.
so maybe MH related or aware that his actions will disappoint his family breaking up a marriage of all these years for OW?

Good luck for the future @JustMissNobody You deserve to be happy, loved and appreciated. I admire you for knowing your worth and considering your boundaries going forward. Wishing you strength and happiness.

@JustMissNobody I'm so glad you've got some clarity. Sorry it was all so awful for you.

I wish you the very best for the future. You sound like a lovely person, I hope you find the happiness you deserve.

Good luck OP, stay strong. Hope you can work things out with your DD. x

Thank you for updating us@JustMissNobody . Sending best wishes as you go forward with the next steps, you have been and are definitely somebody and amazing to boot. We are all rooting for you. Sending a hug 🌺

Good luck. I’m sure you’ll make your future work well for you.

I am sorry you are ending your thread and hope you will come back soon with some good news. You have been so brave, kind and caring that I think you will find more loyalty and love than you expect from you daughters and others. Good luck.

@JustMissNobody - sending you hugs and best wishes. This is not an easy step, but from the many supportive responses you have had, know that there's an army of people behind you. We might not be there in person, but I'm sure that many of us would be if we could! Hold your head high, be strong, and know that you are worthy.

The very best of luck to you for your future @JustMissNobody .

Wishing you all the very best OP, I hope you'll check in at some point to let us know how you're doing and get support whenever you need it.

I also hope all the responses and advice you've had helps you to decide on a more empowering and suitable username for your next thread - you were never "justmissnobody" - you have always been so much more than that.

Here's to you putting yourself first from now on !

Wishing you well in your future decisions. Take care of yourself and please come back.

Good Luck for the future, OP x

Sending you hugs, OP.

Wishing you all the best OP I think you have been incredible, and will be thinking of you x

Sending hugs and strength, you are now a Miss SOMEBODY!! good luck and be happy and put yourself first xxx

Treat yourself to some life changing psychotherapy, you deserve it. All the best ❤️

Oh bless you Thank you so much for updating @JustMissNobody
it's been a horrible week for you, you have done so much.

Onward and upwards

and yes of course we would appreciate it if you do come back one day with an update.

You have had an enormous blow this week and some not very kind posts on here and whether you think you’ve been strong or not I think you’ve been incredible and held it together in a really impressive way. All the very best for you @JustMissNobody .

Best post of all

Take care of yourself

Good luck OP! If you get chance, come back at some point as IamMissSomebody and let us know how you’re doing. We’re all routing for you! 🤗

Good luck, you've been so strong and fabulous dealing with all this!

@JustMissNobody

Good luck. Stand tall and walk proudly into your new future. You have SO got this!

This has been so surreal but I wish you all the best and I definitely agree about the boundaries setting with your daughter. I expect she will throw a tantrum and push back at first but you need to be firm and consistent and over time she will hopefully come around and recognize that she has not been treating you kindly or fairly.

hired I'd say