Do you think once a man hits you once he’ll do it again?

[Missmaria95]

I’m 28 and he’s 37, we’ve been together nearly 3 years. I’ve always knew he had a temper, not necessarily towards me, just no patients. He is an ex body builder, so for the first few months of our relationship he was taking steroids, admittedly he treated me really bad during those times. But last week, he punched me in the face, not hard enough for me to be in pain but all the same he punched me, he then spat in my face twice. This happed because I was moody due to us travelling 2 hours with his friend to end up just driving back home because his friends girlfriend didn’t want to participate, but I ‘ruined’ it by being moody. He apologised and said how much he hates himself. Like I say, this is the first time in the whole relationship he actually hit me. Do you think because I ‘forgave’ him he’ll do it again?

Yes.

Yes. I'm afraid it's a tale as old as time.

Yes he will do it again. This man is dangerous. Get away from him.

Why would you give anyone the opportunity to punch you twice? Get out now.

Yes - he’s an abusive cunt. He punched you in the face and spat at you-then blamed you??? Why the fuck would you forgive assault?

This won’t be last time - get out now before it ramps up.

So he’s treated you badly since the start of your ‘relationship’, punched you in the face and spat at you. Why on earth are you still with him? Yes he’ll do it again. He’s an abusive arsehole. Walk away while you still can.

Yes, he has anger issues and he punched you in the face. Get out before he kills you.

Yes, and the more sure he is of you, the worse it will get. You’ve already told him this is not a dealbreaker for you by staying. You must leave. Do you want children? Take your first act as a mother and elect not to have them with him. This was what I did and the motivation for me. I

100%

They also escalate it. You could end up dead.

Find your anger and dump this piece of shit.

He punched you. If a man you didn't know punched you in the face, what kind of man would you think he was? He is that kind of man. And worse, because he is supposed to love you.

He spat at you. Twice. Spitting shows complete and utter disdain for another human.

He is dangerous.

Be honest - do you have or want children?

Only if you stay around so he has the opportunity.

Yes he will 100% do it again. Then he’ll tell you how sorry he is again and how much he hates himself, or he’ll say how you drove him to it. You being ‘moody’ is not an excuse for to hit you ever.

Ffs again for the 500th time this week alone no don't put up with it, yes it will happen again, being alone is better than having any man and no don't have children with him

Yes and if you stay long enough he could well kill you. Leaving is hard, who do you have you can support you? Try not to overthink it because you'll find reasons to stay, just see leaving as a thing you have to do and work out how to make it happen as soon as possible.

Not only will he do it again, the level of violence is likely to increase. It's interesting that the blame for HIS violence has been put on you for being 'moody'. That's classic abuser behaviour.

I bet this isn't the first time he's been aggressive with you is it? He will have shouted, got up in your face, been really angry with you, maybe hit or thrown objects.

OP please leave him, he will only get worse and you deserve so much better.

Yes

Yes he'll do it again.

But why would you forgive him for the first occasion?

An adult man, a man who is supposed to love you, respect you and cherish you has deliberately hurt you and spat on you!

Next time could be a token nose, fractured jaw, teeth knocked out, black eyes.....

How can you be attracted to someone who is a cowardly abuser?

You know you need to leave. He has treated you horribly from the start and the abuse continues to get worse.

Yes, very few surer things in life

Yes.

how can he have punched you, but it not hurt??

the spitting. that's disgusting & demeaning.

hes treat you badly since the beginning, why the hell are you with this oaf???

Yes. Get out.

Men who love their partners don't punch them in the face he doesn't even like you enough not to punch you, why would you want to stay with someone who hates you?

He’s an extremely dangerous man, and you are in danger. Now he knows he can manipulate you effectively he’s likely to get worse. Please contact Women’s Aid, I’m really concerned about your safety. Men murder their partners with alarming frequency. You’re so young and can have a great life. Please follow WA’s advice on leaving safely.

Of course.
Get away from this 'man' as soon as you can.

Honestly, does it matter if he will do it again? He has already treated you badly for months, and now punched you, and spat in your face. Is that really OK if he doesn't do it again? Obviously yes he probably will, but regardless you need to get out now.