Oh come on, infantalising women like this does no good at all.
Men will be men and all that, op was in a marriage that was less than ideal for her, she's self diagnosed his covert narcisism, on point for disgarding a partner.
If he were abusive then maybe she was looking for a KISA or maybe just wanted someone who she believed could keep up the attention energy, it always wanes though. She had no break in between males which suggests branch swinging, one relationship replacing another, I would suggest she fancied this man more than her h, it usually boils down to nothing more, add in a bit of new relationship attention and boom, all common sense flies out of the window.
Most ow, when it involves emotions with lots of texting and communication that lead to love are aware of their partners living arrangements, they co conspire to keep the relationship covert, it's how it works with an ow.
This rubbish about I didn't know, how could it possibly happen to me is usually recognised after the realisation they have not been the chosen one, that they meant very little to the man, women who in many cases end previous unions for.
Ouch that hurts.
Op took her chance, she lost, her aim was to win the game and the trophy, she's left with nothing now, who knows, maybe she's younger than him and felt she had a good hand. It was a gamble but she did have far more cards in her deck than this man's wife, she had knowledge whilst his wife had no clue as to the scheming going on behind her back, still doesn't for all we know.
Does op deserve any sympathy ? Don't be silly.
The game is still in play, now is the point where the male really gets to enjoy his game, a still unsuspecting wife and probably fawning children and an ow who is currently at the realisation stage of being utterly used, does she carry on or not is the point she's at now, or throw in the cards. There won't be much on the table if she ends it, there will be no players and she will be very lonely, add to that the withdrawl symptoms.
I doubt op will say anything to his wife, in most cases they don't, they feel humiliated, betrayed, used but men will offset this with but you knew I was married, you are partly to blame, we were having fun, pretending to be a couple and I wanted the girlfriend experience with some feels and you were selfish too, prepared to forgo your own family and dump on your husband, you are as bad as me.
The game is one of the most favourite games of men, but to do it they must find very selfish immature women which to play it with.
Op you've had a game, you've had some attention and it felt great at the expense of a perfectly innocent woman, move on and find someone single next time, it may be hard as many of the guinuinely good ones are spoken for and now you've invited yourself to a different game whereby the players are usually under par and not very trustworthy.
Intenet dating and forever trawling about trying to find out who is truly single.
This type of behaviour generally ends ow chances of finding life partners wherby there is complete trust for truly combined lives.
Stop playing men's games and if you can't then don't be surprised at the results, oh and don't expect any unwarranted sympathy.
Just carry on and stop moaning and maybe give a thought to the women and children you have hurt in the background of your show.
And be thankful, you have gotten away with it, it could be far worse if everyone gets to know, that could affect your credit rating in future games dwindeling your chances of invites.
You are now an unsafe bet, especially to women who don't like ow and to men who know you have played the game and lost.
Men don't like losers.
It's a harsh world.
But you made your choices.