He calls on every break!

[rantaroo]

Just looking for a little rant and other people's perspective

My partner gets three breaks a day at work and on every break he calls me. Don't get me wrong, it's endearing that he wants to speak to me on his breaks but we live together so I would much rather he has his day, I have mine and then we debrief over dinner or something!

So today he's got me on the phone as he's buying his lunch and I've stopped what I'm doing for what I felt was quite a "pointless" phone call. He then calls me when he's on his way home. I don't mind knowing he's on his way back but he finishes the same time every day so I'm like just speak to me when you get here!

I guess I'm finding it a bit frustrating that I'm stopping my day 4 times for these calls that I don't deem necessary, and then it takes me a moment to get back into the swing of whatever it was I was doing.

Am I totally over reacting or would this bug you too?!

Put it on speaker and continue with what you’re doing. Tell him it’s disrupting your day and maybe only call at lunch time. My partner messages during the day but we don’t live together.

My husband has started doing this and it drives me nuts. I understand why so suck it up. But my word it's annoying.

( Background is that I had a very serious accident earlier this year. DH thought I was dead, obviously I wasn't. He feels very anxious now when he's away and needs to hear my voice to calm him.)

This sounds like secondary ptsd or similar, he likely needs a psychological intervention and potentially medicating, especially if he was a witness

He's started seeing a psychologist through his work. Hopefully he'll start to feel more secure soon.