DH message. For me?

[lopdedop]

DH left home very (too?) early today to go to the nearest city (4hr journey) as he is flying abroad tomorrow. He's staying at an airport hotel. He arrived well before lunch. He needs to be at the airport at 5am (we're not in UK). Sent a message to say he'd arrived. About 2 hrs later sent a message. "I'm in room 38".
Am I over thinking? He's never sent me his room number before?
Is that strange? I'd really appreciate opinions.

Oooh! You are right! I went into the app settings > Default and it was set to open links in the app. Am now replying from the web!!

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Seriously??

Have you read all of the OPs posts.
This man has not treated her well. If she is insecure, he has made her so.

Yes I did. You said 'if it was in response to a message'
The OP didn't send a message. Somebody else may have done, however.

Exactly. You still do not comprehend my comment. You're just looking for an argument.
If someone else had sent the message, it would have been a reply to THAT message that he sent.
He was not replying to a message, just a forgetful 'oh I didnt tell the missus what room I'm in, let me tell her now', so he composed a message. If he had a side and they asked what room he is in, he would have replied to THAT message.
If it was in response to a telephone call, he would have said what room he is in on THAT same phone call.

I hope this clarifies my comment for you now. I cannot explain any further if you still do not understand.

@Gouki What you haven't taken into account is that most people having an affair delete the messages from their affair partner, so there's no evidence on their phone. It's entirely possible that he was messaging another woman, but not responding to a message she'd sent him earlier.

@Gouki I understand perfectly. What I'm saying is that he mistakenly sent the message to the OP in response to another person's message. The two numbers are probably close to each other in the 'most frequent' list

Do people access messages through a most frequent list?

Maybe I'm the outlier but I go into the message app (WhatsApp/text/whatever) and the messages are chronological and I click on the one I want.

The only likely scenario I'd get the wrong person is if I was having more than one chat at the same time, it would be really unlikely that I'd start a message with the wrong person

Why are you adding steps into something just to fabricate a point? If he supposedly received a message, you are seriously suggesting that he deleted the message first, then composed a message to send in response and then send it to wifey?

Just stop it. Stop making up scenarios to fit your narrative.

Dont worry about this one. They and another user here, are just making up scenarios in objection to what I have reasoned, just to fit their narratives.
They are suggesting for some reason that this guy received a message from a supposed bit on the side, and either exited out of the message, or even more absurdly deleted the message, then created a new message, and then sent that new message in error to the missus.

Why? Why would you, after receiving a message from your side piece, not respond within the same message screen? Why are you adding steps just to fit your narrative?

No one does that. And especially wouldn't do that if they were messaging with someone about to come up to their hotel room for a bit of nookie.

When have you ever sent a response to a message, to the wrong person? You can very easily send a message to the wrong person; but a response to a question???
When you send a message, you see the last message that was communicated. Do you not mobile?

Stop making things up.

I text the wrong people. I do everything superfast, sometimes too fast to check. It tends to happen when I’m texting 2 people at once or have navigated away from the text/whatsapp to do something else & returned.

When is he due to return?
i feel like a conversation and complete honesty and transparency is due

Of course it's entirely possible to text the wrong person.

This is the whole point of the thread.

There can be various reasons for this.

I haven't read all the posts so sorry if this has already been mentioned.

Can you call the hotel, and ask to speak to Mrs (husbands surname) in this room and see who you get put through to?

It's moved way past that.

Something like a room number wouldn't necessarily be an instant response. He may have had to check the roomkey in his bag or walk out of the room to check, then clicked onto the wrong chat to quickly send a reply.

To be honest it sounds like you lost all trust in him and he knows it. It doesn't matter if he's shagging 10 women or no one. You lost faith in him. Either you have to work out why that occured, and try to work around it, OR walk away. If you can't trust your husband then what's the point of the marriage?
If he has done nothing wrong and you've lost all trust in him, then he has every right to be short with you, to be angry that you don't trust him.
If he has done something wrong and you've lost all trust in him, then he will try to deny, deny, deny.

This!!! ^^^

Please @lopdedop leave this man…. As newly weds you should not be having these difficulties already! If you’ve been married less than a year maybe you can annul the marriage?? Believe it’s quicker, cheaper and easier than divorce ?!

@DreamW3aver @Gouki
Twice this week I've had people send a message on two different Whatsapp group chats that were meant for someone else. One of them deleted the message, the other one said 'oops wrong person .
It is possible that OPs H sent a message to the wrong person through a slip of the thumb.
Possible, not probable.

I hope you’re ok @lopdedop … I’m assuming he’s back today?… and hope you’re ok.
sending you hugs

Yeah I’ve done this quite a bit. Thankfully I don’t have a bit on the side to complicate it, but I’ve still worded things in a way I wouldn’t have had I realised. Eg arranging where to meet up with people I’ve responded to ( say) Kate ( thinking she was my DH) with something like “ Kate said she can’t eat anything on their menu. She wants to go to x instead so I’m afraid we’ll have to suck it up and do that. . “ 🤭

If he had a side he may just message them the important info, such as his room number.
If he usually would message OP this info, fine. Except he doesn't.

@Gouki Why? Why would you, after receiving a message from your side piece, not respond within the same message screen? Why are you adding steps just to fit your narrative?

No one does that. And especially wouldn't do that if they were messaging with someone about to come up to their hotel room for a bit of nookie.**

I have done exactly that in the past. Messages exchanged the day before or earlier to agree location and approximate time of arrival. Messages deleted. A brand new message on the day simply to confirm room number.

I don't have a "narrative". I just think it's entirely possible. People meeting for transactional sex don't always have a lot of chatting back and forth, especially if they've made solid plans.

Anyhoo... the OP has decided what action she intends to take so squabbling over this very minor point doesn't assist her.