DH message. For me?

[lopdedop]

DH left home very (too?) early today to go to the nearest city (4hr journey) as he is flying abroad tomorrow. He's staying at an airport hotel. He arrived well before lunch. He needs to be at the airport at 5am (we're not in UK). Sent a message to say he'd arrived. About 2 hrs later sent a message. "I'm in room 38".
Am I over thinking? He's never sent me his room number before?
Is that strange? I'd really appreciate opinions.

it doesn't vibrate when he gets messages anymore.

Is this bad? 😐

Presumably it means that the messages can be received without anyone else being aware, so secretly

Ewe cleerlee dont hait to bee pidantac else yew woodnt of corected a persuns speiling.

Agree. I would not check a person's spelling or grammar on Mumsnet unless they asked me to.

Clever indeed.

I’m sorry oP. I can think of innocent reasons he might have sent it but if I’m honest I’m trying quite hard to “think them up.”

The most likely scenario is he texted it to you by mistake. I often do that if I’ve just texted someone/ a text comes through while I’m texting someone else and I answer it. Thankfully my life is less “exhilarating” so it doesn’t matter too much…

Yes, but if it’s not that woman’s address and another woman’s (e.g. an escort), he’s not exactly going to have their address or want to admit that he’d knows who it belongs to.

For balance, my partner and I always share hotel info, room numbers and things like that, mostly for safety reasons. We share locations and things like that.

There are a few things that seem a little bit suspect, and I’m more concerned about how you’ve been feeling and that state of your relationship leading up to this. Even still, I think you’ve done the right thing to have some distance to put your mind at rest you poor thing… it sounds like you both need a proper heart to heart when you’re together again. I wouldn’t speculate for now, and try your best to focus on other things and keep yourself busy and occupied until he’s back.

Look it’s not watertight but it was a good thought. If he did give an address it’s mystery solved.

@Blamket, it baffles me when people call out spelling or grammar mistakes on Mumsnet. I wouldn't consider correcting a friend IRL, never mind a stranger on the internet unless they asked me to.

As a man, I've checked into a hotel and then sent my partner the room number in case she needs to contact me while my phone is off. It might just be that?

Its innocent, and the message was meant for you. The logistics dont work otherwise. If it was after a phone call, he would have mentioned his room number on it. If it was a response to a message, it would have been a reply to that message.

But you're more than happy to put in your two penn'orth, clearly.

Possibly, but another scenario might have been when previously discussing pre trip it was agreeed he would text the person his room number when he arrived. Enables the visitor to avoid wasting time by bypassing having to ask at reception.

Sorry he's definitely cheating on you.

I'm really sorry this happened. Unfortunately, there are three possible scenarios here:

He's meeting a woman for a one-night stand from a dating app.
He's having an affair.
He's hired a prostitute.

He screwed up by messaging you instead. I'm sorry to say it, but he's cheated.

Well, it's a discussion forum. A forum for putting in one's two penn'orth.

Look at his itemised mobile phone bill online and check the calls he made leading up to the night he was in hotel. Google search any numbers you don't recognise and see if they come up as prostitutes numbers advertising as escorts. Wouldn't be in the least surprised they do!

Can you phone the hotel to check who is staying in the room?

That would be the lesser of the two scenarios, as he would just have easily messaged the supposed second person when he checked in.
The logistics just dont add up. If the message was meant for a third party, it wouldnt have been sent at random so the partner would "'accidently' recieve the message.
Bloke probably saw his room number on a menu or something and thought 'oh maybe I should let the missus know what room I'm in.'

Keep your dignity, don’t chase after him. He’s checked out of your marriage. The signs are there.

I wouldn’t block him either, nor not respond as that is passive aggressive. Simply beat him at his own game, and message him to say you’re leaving him.

Unless you have noticed other odd behaviour I would not read too much into it. I used to travel a lot and occasionally told my husband my room number, in case he could not get hold of me he could leave a message in my room. It really depended on what I was doing, but I was inconsistent with it.

Text him back and say you'll be there by 7pm.

Duoh!