Stingy restaurant behaviour has given me the ick

[HazelSchmazel]

This afternoon, I went on a second date with a guy I met on Tinder. Wasn't too sure after the first date, but I thought I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.

We had a nice meal and the bill was in the region of £50. When it was time to pay, I placed £30 (cash) in the middle of the table on the basis of £25 for my share and a £5 tip (our shares of food and drink were pretty much 50/50). He then proffered my £30 to the waiter, together with his credit card and said 'put £20 on my card'. So the poor waiting staff get no tip and my £5 effectively goes into his pocket!!! Uuuurgh - instant ick!

I should have said something, but I just wanted to get the fuck away from the knuckle dragger asap! Plus I was temporarily deaf from the thunderclap of my fanny slamming shut.

Now snuggled up with my cat, a bar of chocolate and am planning a Netflix binge, together with a future life of celibacy. Bliss!

Anyone else with a story of financially induced ick?

lucky escape!

Have you blocked?

What a weasel....

Next!

Are you in the UK? He might not have known you wanted to tip, it's not expected. He may have planned to buy you a drink on the next date to even it up.

Well I hope he wasn't expecting there to be a third date.....

The thunderclap - love it!

Cheeky sod!!

Ugh that's appalling behaviour. So tight.

Plus I was temporarily deaf from the thunderclap of my fanny slamming shut.

this is the best sentence I have ever read on mumsnet.

I had a guy that sat and waited for his £2 change after we'd enjoyed drinks and lovely pizzas and had a very attentive waitress. I was mortified and said leave her the £2 take that out of my share.

Oh come on, at the very least he should have been paying £25 as his half of the bill. He took £5 of OP's money!

And it's very normal to tip in a restaurant in the UK.

Mean with money = mean of spirit. Bin

Why are people so keen to jump on to these threads to defend awful behaviour by men? Is the bar so low?

He wasn't to know she just didn't have £25 exactly on her so put in £30. Could've easily planned to buy her a drink next time or otherwise make it fair. It's just as normal not to tip.

I mean, it's entirely your choice, but maybe he didn't think the service was worth tipping? It isn't mandatory is it? You could have made this clear by casually saying 'here's my half plus a £5 tip' then he wouldn't have been left guessing.

Anyway, enjoy your Netflix binge.

I don't see it as awful to pay the agreed price for a service.

I agree.

He didn't. He paid twenty

He paid less than his fair share. How was that ok? Maybe she was going to wait for change? But he put too little in and didn't cover his bill!

Why are you so keen to defend him?

That would definitely give me the ick

An ex bf and I were in a farm shop buying ingredients for dinner.

He suddenly said 'who's paying for this?'

I paid because I'm not cheap.but broke up not long after.

He also used to make me drive places and I suspected it was just to save him petrol money.

He had plenty of money but wanted to spend it all on his hobbies - his MG, fishing equipment etc.

Bullet dodged.

Ewww. Lucky escape.

Grim. Tight with money, selfish in bed

Being a tight arse is not remotely sexy 😊

I went on a coffee date once and the server misheard my date and thought he said to put the 5p change in the tip jar. He got annoyed at her apparent presumption and pompously took the 5p out of the jar. She apologised and explained she thought he meant to put the change in the jar and he put it back in but it was too late by then. I had the ick good and proper.