I have had so many issues in my marriage with my DH he says I can't be trusted, I don't feel like that is justified at all. I have never cheated, I have never behaved inappropriately or had an emotional affair.
He says I lead men on, I need attention from them, I can't be trusted.
I am losing sight of what is rational here, maybe it is me?
Last nights argument - A guy I did a sporting event with (as a group) last year followed me on Instagram, I accepted and followed him back. Both of us are married. There has been no further interactions, no messages, nothing.
My DH has gone crazy - I am leading this guy on, we will at some point start messaging, I want his attention.
This is fairly typical of the accusations, another example from two weeks ago -
A guy was arranging to cut the grass, there were a few messages back and forth and then we finalised the date/time/cost. Rather than send another message I just reacted to the message with the heart. To my mind that says yes I have seen this message and I am happy with it.
Same thing the next time he was due to come round, he had to change the agreed time so we rearranged and I heart reacted it. My thought process was that DH wouldn't like me prolonging a conversation and that just shut it down whilst accepting.
Apparently this is a sign of how I can' be trusted because the heart react is leading this guy on and giving him the wrong idea.
There are hundreds more examples I could give, all very similar - I don't feel like I behave inappropriately but DH says I can't be trusted.
I can't keep doing this, we are in therapy together but I can't see a way forward.
Is this me? Am I somehow begging for attention? I don't feel like I am leading people on but am I in denial. I feel like this whole thing is insane.