My man wants my hand and my house

[LennoxBaird]

I've been in a long term relationship-10years now. My partner only recently proposed (informally). I tied for years for getting us ro buy a place together, have a family or get married but he wasn't interested until I mentioned that I worry about our financial future. That's when he asked if he could be a part of my house mortgage and to get married to get our finances merged. I'm scared. Any advice?

You are 4 years younger than Op in the time you and your husband have been together a lot has changed. He has found his career and earning great and is contributing. In the 11 years the Op has been with her partner he has not. Can you see the difference?

No one said every man is evil scum. Why do people pretend this is what people are saying? But your situation is entirely different and was still a massive gamble. It paid off you. But pretending that could be the case here, when’s it’s completely different situation and it’s Op that will gambling her future at an older age than you gambled yours is just silly.

He isn’t going to all of a sudden become a 6 figure earner or magically make it so he contributed over the course of the relationship.

Any fucker pretending it might work out that way and all of sudden he will start having loads of money and start contributing properly, in this case is delusional.

He might pay for every holiday so Op should give him half her home? He didn’t want to marry until it was financially beneficial to him, so Op should jump at the chance?

This is about you and your situation. No one is judging you what you did. It’s not about you.