Should I sent the paragraph to him?

[serenabar]

I wrote a message on my notes for my ex. I wanna send it but at the same time im scared too.. this is the message:
im scared he will leave me on delivered, or that he will tell me he is with someone else now.. but at the same time i wanted him to know this..

You probably won’t open this, just like you didn’t open the yesterday one. But I am gonna say it anyway.. I never expected that we would disappear from each other’s worlds. I never expected you would be okay with that. I never expected you would not care what I have to say to you, I never expected you would ignore me like that.
But they say men are quite simple.. “the way a man treats you is exactly how he feels about you. If he wants to talk to you, he will reach out. If he wants to see you, he will make plans with you. And if he acts like he doesn't care, then he doesn't care.”
Yes, looks like you stopped caring. I was there when you needed me, I answered all your questions and when I mentioned I was hurt too - you disappeared. Yes, you showed me once again my feelings are not valid. I am just someone from now another universe for you. You seem like you are doing just fine, like you are forgetting all about me. I wish it was that easy for me too. But then again.. this new you is not the man I fall inlove with. He would never do anything like that, he wouldn’t just delete me from his life. And that man is gone. He no longer exists and I gotta acept that. Its a new you that I don’t recognize, I just don’t know him. It hurts now but the sun will rise again.
No one can take away the person who you were when we were in love.
Not even you. That person can stay in my heart for as long as I decide.
I think he loved me.
Even when you hurt me multiple times, I still didn’t leave. I won the I love you more.
You put me in enough breakups for a lifetime. And I still wouldn’t walk away from you. Cause not for once I looked at another guy, not for once I accepted any follow request. Cause for me that will be offensive thing for my man. I’m pure and I’m loyal. When I love - I love hard. And i know cause when you want something badly you just don’t give up. Everything can be sorted. Absolutely everything. Of course if it’s wanted.
I guess I got my closure too.
No one is going to want something and let it slip away. That's not how the human heart works.

no.
read the bit bout how he trets you gain.
thats your closure.let it go-you holding a string.baloon popped.its ok.you are ok

It is for the best lovey. So sorry. You'll get through this. 💐

How old are you OP and how long were you together?

I know you're hurting but I would urge you to not send it and delete it in case you're ever tempted to again. You have nothing to gain from it. He will in all likelihood ignore it and you will feel worse. Keep your dignity and work at moving on with your life. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want you and who treated you badly.

i say there’s nothing to lose and if it helps your process, crack on. But do it for you and you only, not for your relationship

That's not a paragraph.
Don't send it especially if you messaged yesterday, but even if you didn't don't, you'll regret it.

So sorry you're hurting OP..... re-read your original post, you said that they say men are simple and if they want to talk they'll reach out - believe this part!
If your ex has cut contact, please do the same, block and delete his number, remove him from all social media and let the healing process start, it's hard but you'll get there and be a stronger person for it.

I remember reading that when we're in this much pain looking for "closure", what we're really looking for is something that means our pain is not the right emotion.

We want to reach out and hear, oh I lost my phone, I was posted abroad, I'm scared of how much I love you. Basically, some version of "it's not you, it's me" and if we could get that, then we wouldn't need to feel all the pain. we are desperate not to feel the pain. But the pain can heal us and give us truths. it doesn't always, I think you need to work at it, but feel what you feel based on the evidence you have. Ie, he treated you badly and you tolerated it, and he still wants out. Painful. Xxx

1. He’s not going to say what you want to hear.

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1. There is nothing you can say to him that will change the way he feels.

keep repeating those things to yourself and DO NOT send the message.

i should just let him do whatever he wants too. Its all his choices

No not no NO !!!

It should be about YOUR choices, not his.

YOU should choose what is best for you. Always put self-respect at the top of your list. And self-interest. Because you can bet your life that this is what men do.

If you nurture your self esteem you are much less likely to do anything that is not in your best interest. So there is less risk of getting hurt.

Here is another useful book: The Six Pillars of Self Esteem, by Nathaniel Barden.

Thank you! I love reading, I will get those books 😔 I hope I will be happy again
oh.. he reacted with a tear to my yesterday message just now as i was replying here.

Is there a reason why you're refusing to say how long you were together OP, and how old you are?

I mean you don't have to obviously, I'm just wondering why you're ignoring the questions?

Hes cruel to do that tear thing. I hope you ignore him

oh sorry, I’m 22 and its been 3 years but with many break ups (longest for a month)

The yesterday message was only a screenshot of our pictures that reappeared but now I have him blocked on instagram so I don’t think he can find my account anymore

Why is this one different?

Does it feel more final?

Has he met someone else?

Please don’t send this.

There is a dignity in silence that no amount of words can convey.

Cause he wouldn’t stop texting me before, he was even double texting me.. and now we go days without texting.. and I am usually the one to initiate the conversation and he says we won’t heal if we text.. i understand this.. and i was doing just fine on day 3 but then i was sent his story him and three girls so thats what upset me yesterday..

You're 22 move on.

You have no idea how easy it is to find someone else at that age.

But i asked my friends how is it.. and they said its the best to be single.. cause every guy is just so bad, all are liars, cheaters and etc..

I agree.
It's a worthwhile exercise.
Keep it for yourself.
Don't send it.
Spend time & energy now on You.
Work put (with therapy if needed) why you would allow a person to hurt you multiple times.
At the end of that process, in time, you can look back & see just how far you've come. You have an amazing trip ahead.

Hey OP,

You've been badly hurt by someone who's failed to appreciate you. Please don't read into any of the spiteful comments on here. Some people enjoy baiting others and have little compassion for anything outside of themselves. You're not unhinged or a stalker. You're hurting, just wanting to express yourself and that's okay. It's good to write personal stuff down but keep your thoughts for your eyes only. The moment you share your feelings you lose control of how they are received. Don't make yourself vulnerable to someone who doesn't value them.

Ghost mode. ASAP

100 times this - trust me. Don’t send it. You’ll be so relieved in a few weeks’ time that you didn’t send it.

What do you hope to gain from sending the message? Do you hope that he will respond positively? What happens if he responds negatively, if at all?

Protect your happiness, write it down on a piece of paper, delete the note from your phone and burn the letter.