Should I sent the paragraph to him?

[serenabar]

I wrote a message on my notes for my ex. I wanna send it but at the same time im scared too.. this is the message:
im scared he will leave me on delivered, or that he will tell me he is with someone else now.. but at the same time i wanted him to know this..

You probably won’t open this, just like you didn’t open the yesterday one. But I am gonna say it anyway.. I never expected that we would disappear from each other’s worlds. I never expected you would be okay with that. I never expected you would not care what I have to say to you, I never expected you would ignore me like that.
But they say men are quite simple.. “the way a man treats you is exactly how he feels about you. If he wants to talk to you, he will reach out. If he wants to see you, he will make plans with you. And if he acts like he doesn't care, then he doesn't care.”
Yes, looks like you stopped caring. I was there when you needed me, I answered all your questions and when I mentioned I was hurt too - you disappeared. Yes, you showed me once again my feelings are not valid. I am just someone from now another universe for you. You seem like you are doing just fine, like you are forgetting all about me. I wish it was that easy for me too. But then again.. this new you is not the man I fall inlove with. He would never do anything like that, he wouldn’t just delete me from his life. And that man is gone. He no longer exists and I gotta acept that. Its a new you that I don’t recognize, I just don’t know him. It hurts now but the sun will rise again.
No one can take away the person who you were when we were in love.
Not even you. That person can stay in my heart for as long as I decide.
I think he loved me.
Even when you hurt me multiple times, I still didn’t leave. I won the I love you more.
You put me in enough breakups for a lifetime. And I still wouldn’t walk away from you. Cause not for once I looked at another guy, not for once I accepted any follow request. Cause for me that will be offensive thing for my man. I’m pure and I’m loyal. When I love - I love hard. And i know cause when you want something badly you just don’t give up. Everything can be sorted. Absolutely everything. Of course if it’s wanted.
I guess I got my closure too.
No one is going to want something and let it slip away. That's not how the human heart works.

hey stop with the ''im embarrassed for you'' type comments. She's clearly in a lot of pain. It's possible to give broken hearted posters a steer in the right direction without shaming them for being so hurt.

You sound as if you’re stalking him.

No, definitely nonsense that. Block him..

What do you think sending that would achieve? Do you somehow think he'll read It and think, o she's actually amazing, I must get back with her? I can guarantee he wont. It makes you look grovelling and needy, not strong. The strongest thing is to move on with your life and never to contact him.

The bit about not giving up sounds a bit stalkery even if you didn't mean it that way.

Save you dignity and don't send it. Block and delete.

Don't. Block him and work on yourself

WTH OP?!!!!!
please I beg you in the name of all things dear… do not send that. You will kick yourself when you go back and read that thing when you’re no longer in your feelings. Don’t send that, don’t send anything at all.

I think you need to work on your dignity and self confidence OP. How many times will you let the same person reject you?? He didn’t respond to you yesterday and today you want to send another one?

take steps to Heal from this. I’m sure in a few months to come you’ll be thankful that you’re no longer with someone who you need to beg to respect and respond to you.

He won't even bother to read it, trust me. I have a lovely DH, but he wouldn't be arsed with that novel. I don't know if I would either to be fair.

The relationship is over, particularly if you're having to send messages like this. Accept, grieve it and move on. He's not your person. And if he is....there's no message you can possibly send that will stop him coming back for you.

Listen to the other posters.

I wouldn't send it. In the past when I've sent messages like this, I've always regretted it. And when I've been on the receiving end, I've felt a bit uncomfortable.

Think about what you're actually seeking to gain from this. Is it to reconnect with him? Is it closure? I think it's best to seek that closure internally and not rely on him for it. You are likely to be disappointed by his response, which could derail or slow down your healing process.

I've been where you are before, and it honestly can come across as desperate and lacking self-respect. Focus your energy on your own healing and self-worth.

How long were you together OP?

I’m sorry your hurting so much OP, youve posted that message here and there will be plenty of us who understand how much pain you are in. Myself included. My phone is full of notes in a similar vein but that’s where they will stay please don’t send it

It sounds like an extract from baby reindeer and that didn't end well...

Keep your dignity and energy for someone who will reciprocate it.

Do not sent that, or anything at all

plan to move forwards without him.

he doesn’t care, and no message will make him care

No no no no no no no no no

And just in case that’s not clear enough

NO

Oh, sweetheart, do NOT send it. I've been there and have been left humiliated.

Write it out on paper. Delete it from your phone (along with his phone number), light a little bonfire outside and burn the paper you've written that message on.

Then, gather up your self esteem, remind yourself that you are an awesome, ass kicking woman that does not need that kind of crappy person dragging her down in her life. Say that on repeat. Many times a day. Because you do not need ANYONE to reduce you to that pitiful level. No one, not a soul, is worth it.

Remember that the best form of revenge is moving on and showing the world just how great you are.

OP I'm sorry you're feeling so hurt. It really is awful to have a broken heart.

I agree with the posters who say not to send, I hope just writing it on here has helped you, but leave it at that.

Do not send it. You sent one yesterday!!

You look pathetic.

And are bordering on harassment.

Another vote for do not send this or any other message. This message you have drafted reads like something I would have posted on MySpace when I was 13 - it doesn’t even really make sense. If I received this from someone you can pretty much guarantee I would screenshot it and send it to my friends. Don’t give him the power to do that and humiliate you. Block his number, archive the chat and move on please!

Just seen your other thread that you’re very young and he’s your first bf.

Please darling girl listen to the older wiser more experienced women on here who all unanimously say it’s a terrible idea.

Your first heartbreak is so hard we’ve all been there but believe us all when we say it will pass and you will be ok

😂😂

Honestly, you sound unhinged. Do not send that. And maybe get some therapy.

Don't.

Destroy it.

You'll feel different in the morning when you've sobered up.

OMFG.

no. It’s awful.

Unless there's a thread I can't see, she didn't state her age at all on that thread.

She just said it's her first relationship.

OP, you didn't take part much in your other thread and so far, you haven't taken part much in this one either.

If you want to talk, people are willing to listen.