Should I sent the paragraph to him?

[serenabar]

I wrote a message on my notes for my ex. I wanna send it but at the same time im scared too.. this is the message:
im scared he will leave me on delivered, or that he will tell me he is with someone else now.. but at the same time i wanted him to know this..

You probably won’t open this, just like you didn’t open the yesterday one. But I am gonna say it anyway.. I never expected that we would disappear from each other’s worlds. I never expected you would be okay with that. I never expected you would not care what I have to say to you, I never expected you would ignore me like that.
But they say men are quite simple.. “the way a man treats you is exactly how he feels about you. If he wants to talk to you, he will reach out. If he wants to see you, he will make plans with you. And if he acts like he doesn't care, then he doesn't care.”
Yes, looks like you stopped caring. I was there when you needed me, I answered all your questions and when I mentioned I was hurt too - you disappeared. Yes, you showed me once again my feelings are not valid. I am just someone from now another universe for you. You seem like you are doing just fine, like you are forgetting all about me. I wish it was that easy for me too. But then again.. this new you is not the man I fall inlove with. He would never do anything like that, he wouldn’t just delete me from his life. And that man is gone. He no longer exists and I gotta acept that. Its a new you that I don’t recognize, I just don’t know him. It hurts now but the sun will rise again.
No one can take away the person who you were when we were in love.
Not even you. That person can stay in my heart for as long as I decide.
I think he loved me.
Even when you hurt me multiple times, I still didn’t leave. I won the I love you more.
You put me in enough breakups for a lifetime. And I still wouldn’t walk away from you. Cause not for once I looked at another guy, not for once I accepted any follow request. Cause for me that will be offensive thing for my man. I’m pure and I’m loyal. When I love - I love hard. And i know cause when you want something badly you just don’t give up. Everything can be sorted. Absolutely everything. Of course if it’s wanted.
I guess I got my closure too.
No one is going to want something and let it slip away. That's not how the human heart works.

HELL TO THE NO.

NO NO NO!!!!!!!!

@serenabar I can categorically tell you do NOT do this. Delete it. Trust me I was the woman that did similar and when I say that man destroyed me, my heart, my reputation, everything. He told his friends I was crazy due to sending a message to him. It was not as long or anything but I felt a heartfelt message and I made a total idiot of myself. Do not send it. Delete it, delete him. Believe me it will ruin your respect for yourself when he does not reply and when he makes fun of you behind your back for doing it. Do not give him that power. He is not worth it.

'Darling girl'?

Really?

If you're going to patronise the hell out of her, why would she even try to listen?

Save it for your autobiography.

I don’t know why you would send that to anyone but I expect you will ignore all advice, send it, then post about how you can fix it.

@serenabar you’re not going to get closure or answers ftim him. As others have said taking time to figure out why you hold this view of loyalty to your man above everything. (Including yourself!) is so ingrained in you.

Im from east London I call everyone darling so off you go with your faux outrage bollocks

Do not send it! I have received stuff like this in the past when I had already made my mind up. It really doesn’t help. It pushes people further away. It’s uncomfortable and way too emotional. The best revenge is to move on and be happy.

Keep writing to us if it helps get it if your chest!

Absolutely, do not send it!

Paper. Pen.write
Burn. Taking care not to need to ring the fire brigade.

Absolutely not. He doesn't care and that won't make him care. You'll only end up feeling embarrassed.

"I won the I love you more."
Wtf?
You'll win the I made a bigger fool of myself if you send this.

I've lived in East London all my life and have never met older women who call younger women 'darling girl'.

Not once.

It's patronising no matter where you're from.

Ok then👍

Amen.

Why would you?

Obviously do not send!

However, do keep a journal.
But a proper journal, not just reams of wallowing in grief about what you think you've lost, could have done better, why oh why, et cetera.

And please read Women Who Love Too Much - an excellent book by Robin Norwood.

Literally says your other thread.

Jesus Christ no. Embarrassing teen angsty bollocks. Have some pride ffs.

Also in the please please don’t do another act of self harm by sending it.

Perhaps, write it out and keep it, so that in 12 months you can see the progress you have made.

but for the love of God, don’t send that, or anything.

Not where I’m from. Stop seeking offence.

I won’t send it.. thank you all 😔
yeah it hurts a lot but i watched a video where the no contact rule is explained..
and i should just let him do whatever he wants too. Its all his choices..
He have broken up with me a few times and he never stopped talking to me but now it’s different.. maybe its for the best..

Please don't. You will look desperate, needy and pathetic. He doesn't care. You'll cringe over it later on, kick yourself and be mortified.
You deserve better. Block him from any social media and your phone. Never contact him again or respond if he contacts you- not ever. Don't look back at him. Look forward and build your own future.

What?

Sorry I've read this twice and still don't understand what you mean?

As I said, I literally read her other thread and she doesn't state her age at all?

Unless there's another thread I'm missing.

What outcome are you hoping for?

That's great advice.