Should I sent the paragraph to him?

[serenabar]

I wrote a message on my notes for my ex. I wanna send it but at the same time im scared too.. this is the message:
im scared he will leave me on delivered, or that he will tell me he is with someone else now.. but at the same time i wanted him to know this..

You probably won’t open this, just like you didn’t open the yesterday one. But I am gonna say it anyway.. I never expected that we would disappear from each other’s worlds. I never expected you would be okay with that. I never expected you would not care what I have to say to you, I never expected you would ignore me like that.
But they say men are quite simple.. “the way a man treats you is exactly how he feels about you. If he wants to talk to you, he will reach out. If he wants to see you, he will make plans with you. And if he acts like he doesn't care, then he doesn't care.”
Yes, looks like you stopped caring. I was there when you needed me, I answered all your questions and when I mentioned I was hurt too - you disappeared. Yes, you showed me once again my feelings are not valid. I am just someone from now another universe for you. You seem like you are doing just fine, like you are forgetting all about me. I wish it was that easy for me too. But then again.. this new you is not the man I fall inlove with. He would never do anything like that, he wouldn’t just delete me from his life. And that man is gone. He no longer exists and I gotta acept that. Its a new you that I don’t recognize, I just don’t know him. It hurts now but the sun will rise again.
No one can take away the person who you were when we were in love.
Not even you. That person can stay in my heart for as long as I decide.
I think he loved me.
Even when you hurt me multiple times, I still didn’t leave. I won the I love you more.
You put me in enough breakups for a lifetime. And I still wouldn’t walk away from you. Cause not for once I looked at another guy, not for once I accepted any follow request. Cause for me that will be offensive thing for my man. I’m pure and I’m loyal. When I love - I love hard. And i know cause when you want something badly you just don’t give up. Everything can be sorted. Absolutely everything. Of course if it’s wanted.
I guess I got my closure too.
No one is going to want something and let it slip away. That's not how the human heart works.

Is English his first language?

No

As predicted.

This is a breadcrumb text OP. He’s testing if he could still have you back. He’s finding that he misses having someone who is besotted with him. The grass maybe isn’t as green as he thought it was yet.

Ignore. He will text again in a week or so when it’s really annoying him that you appear to be moving on.

At this point you only reply to texts where he says how much he misses you. How he thinks he’s made a mistake. How he wants to meet up and put things right.

Otherwise you risk being pulled back into msgs that go nowhere and you get gradually faded out when he knows you’re still waiting.

In the meantime OP please listen to us all. Get out and about. New hobbies and interests. New term starts soon. Enroll on an art class or a language class etc.

Do it even if it is just to have new things and new people to talk about if he does come crawling back. He has to know you were moving on. Who knows, you could end up finding a new passion and a new bf to share it with!

💐

DO NOT RESPOND. PP is right. He’s testing your responses. I don’t think you should take him back but if you’re desperate to. Do not respond!

Ugh him texting me gave me anxiety again. I was having a good day before that. Now I wonder what he wants..

Please don't reply. Because if you do and you get no reply back or just chit chat / you will feel worse.

But at the end of the day it is your life, and no one can tell you what to do.

I would only say that no good will come of replying to him and this is why blocking can help you move on.

Best of luck with what ever you decide

Exactly, you were doing great until he texted. You’ve come really far since your first post, I’m so proud of you!

But seriously that text is just nothing- no apology for the way he’s treated you. It doesn’t even need an answer.

Years ago before I was married an ex sent me a text saying he missed me so much! And then we met up, he made a pass at me and I called him out and asked what all this was about…and he left pretty damn fast. I’ve seen it happen so many times, they dump you then come crawling back with silly little messages. Normally because they’ve realised that there aren’t loads of hot women fawning all over them and they want a shag/ego boost.

As tempting as it is, I would try not to reply back. (Easier said than done though, I know). Maybe sleep on it and see how you feel tomorrow.

Thank you for the strength! ❤️

Do not reply do not reply do not reply.
His message is pathetic. Just a bit of bait. He can’t even be bothered to compose a proper message with an apology or even a question. He’s hoping you will restart the conversation and prove to him that he still has some power over you, that you’ll come running for the slightest hint of attention.
Keep your dignity and ignore him. If he really wants to be back in touch at least make him go to the trouble of writing you a proper message rather then throwing you a couple of breadcrumbs.

You reply - he'll be happy - then ignore you again and you'll be right back to where you were when you wrote this post.

His message was disrespectful to you. It’s not him caring, it’s him trying to find out if you’re pinning for him and upset about breaking up. If he truly cared then he would have reached out well before now!

Don’t let him derail you! You’re going well and gaining strength. Ignore the message and focus on you!

He is fishing, either for a confidence boost or to mess with your head.
Ignore ignore ignore

Just think how amazing it will feel knowing you let it end and that you ignored him.

HRTFT but this is NEVER EVER a good idea. Why would you hand him all that ammunition to further humiliate you?

How are you doing today Serena x

No. Do not send it. It's like something a lovesick teenager would type and it's undeniably cringe.

You only read the first post right?

Hi! I feel a bit anxious, with a bad sleep again. I started reading a book called “Attached” and I’m learning more about my anxious attachment style and I can say he definitely is an avoidant.
Thank you for checking on me! ❤️

You can do this x

There was a time I didn't have 24 hours no contact with a dick head of a man and now it's been 9 years.

One day at a time xx

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Keep ignoring him

Ahhh Serena! So glad you've not texted him back. It will unnerve you hearing a text from him but well done for not playing into his hands. You're a strong lady. Keep moving forwards, grow and learn. You'll be fine in the long run. You've got this.

I went to therapy today for first time. And I cried and now I feel awkward for opening up so much. I shared about my social anxiety as well and she could see that because I was having a bad posture and all because I am so shy in front of strangers! Now I feel like she judges me 😔

Woooo well done ! It’s a process ! You have started a new chapter in your life. It is not easy but nothing worth having ever is.

well done you !

Amazing well done! Worked with many therapists and my job has an element of it. Nobody is judging you at all. So glad you were able to open up ☺️💕

If its any consolation, I said all sorts in my therapy sessions. Couldn't tell you half of it now but honestly they don't judge, it helps to have someone neutral listen