What harsh words from others have stuck with you for life?

[blackbutterfly22]

''You really aren't very photogenic, are you?' (Said by my ex husband about 25 years ago and still haunts me to this day when someone takes my photo).

'You'll never find anyone again' . (Said when I got divorced 8 years ago and I truly now believe that there is something wrong with me as despite dating lots, no one seems to want to be my special person.)

Anyone have comments from others that keep rearing their heads throughout life?

Had a few this was about 5 years ago and I was not menapousal but during a minor argument with my husband he said what's wrong with you are you going through the menopause. It hurt very much we married young and were 24 years married at this time I still think of it he made feel old. Karma kicked in a few years later he is the one now with very low testosterone and seeing an endicrologist. I did not wish it on him but he did knock my confidence badly. Another time a close family member was discussing how pretty my siblings are and said even Louise is not ugly.

My mum once said shut up you talk such nonsense. That really affected my confidence. I was really shy for ages after that.

Oh, and when I was pregnant with my first daughter, my mum said "But of course this isn't your first child." I had had an abortion, when in an abusive relationship, nearly 20 years before. (She knew about all of this but never offered to help me leave.)

When I was about 14, a very popular girl told me I was pathetic. That has never left me.

When I was 14 the "cool" boys decided to take it upon themselves to suddenly announce to each girl around them how they would rate them looks wise. I got an "just over average". The sad thing was I was so insecure at the time I was actually relieved 😔. God help my son i ever got wind of similar behaviours from him!

Ironically as soon as I was single several of these "boys" years later dropped me a msg to see if I'd like to go out 🤣🤣

'I can't possibly be with you, your nose is too big.' Said to me by the partner who then became my husband. Yes, after that I still stuck around... more fool me. But I did divorce him later.

My Mum calling me a “stupid little witch/bitch’
when I was around 5 or 6

When I was around 19, I was seeing a guy whose friend didn't seem to like me very much, there was a real undercurrent of hostility. It made me quite uncomfortable, but everyone else seemed to think him a great laugh so I thought perhaps I was being over sensitive. One day, we were all hanging out with a group of his mates in the pub and the friend said to me in quite a kindly, concerned way, "You're looking a bit pale." I was touched that he was showing concern, so I replied, "Oh, really?" His oh-so-amusing response: "Well, what I meant is that you've got a cunt like a bucket." Everyone fell about laughing but I felt like I'd been slapped, it was horrible. He was a nasty piece of work. I didn't see his mate for very long, thankfully! But it's always stayed with me, the feeling of shock and shame.

‘My life is so shit with you in it’, ‘You sound like such a cocky c*nt sometimes’, ‘I have to put up with your B.O’. I get on well with her now but my mum used to be so horrible to 17/18 year old me, and I’m not sure my self-esteem has ever fully recovered.

Blimey yea I've just remembered a comment on here from someone about bottle feeding a newborn as 'truly awful'

It was 17 years ago and it upset me so much!

Moondog if you're reading this I hope you're pleased.

My teenagers are awesome but honestly at the time (postpartum etc etc) it fucking ruined me. Cunt.

Some people do it on purpose I once heard my sister in law husbands sister chatting behind my back when my baby was 6 weeks old. She said to her sister well Louise will never see size 12 again how anyone can say this about a new mum is disgusting. This actually caused a relapse with me being bulimic again I was 11 stone when I was 17 hurt myself going down to 8 stone because of an evil comment. I used to work in retail a group of boys a few years older always used to come in. One asked me out and I said no and he said I was joking I would not ask you out your too fat. I realise now he was annoyed because his friends laughed but you do not see it at the time.

When I was a teenager, I was curvy but only a size 10 and my aunt's (obese) partner told me I was "getting fat" and even now I'm my 30s, I still get anxious if I see him.

Again when I was younger, I was in holiday and had missed a spot shaving on the back of my legs and my big sister called me mutton chops for months and I still think about it every time I shave my legs and have at times made my legs sore from going over and over the backs of my legs to make sure I don't miss a spot.

He very clearly wasn't indifferent to you or he wouldn't have been calling your house!

Your sister is vile. Didn’t your parents or another adult put a stop to that?
Please don’t hurt yourself because of this. Use removal cream (you know you will get an even coverage) or opt for laser. Razors are so harsh on skin - I won’t use them. And weight comments are horrible. That man had no right.

Vile man what the hell is wrong with people?

Being called an ugly cow at school, by a boy.
Being told that talking to me was 'like talking to a 2 year old' by my counsellor, as it was hard to get me to talk. I went there to get help for my social anxiety. Needless to say, it didn't help me one bit...

I was told someone said, “Is that what she looks like now?” about me across a crowded room. Very cutting.

I was also told that a group of local women said a discriminatory slur about my DM when she was pregnant with me. It made sense because I could always sense this weird tension around them when I was growing up.

OMG some mums are utter bitches aren't they?

What an arsehole! Sorry you had that completely unacceptable experience and hope you were able to find someone better!

‘Don’t blame your shitty life choices on me. If you didn’t enjoy it you shouldn’t have done it’.

my Dad said this to me when I explained I really didn’t want to resort to escorting as I had when I was younger, to pay him rent. I’d escaped an abusive relationship and stayed with my parents for a while to get back on my feet.

been SA’d as a child by a family member which lead to poor life choices. I started escorting when I was 22 and he knew then, and literally had nothing to say except to start charging me rent then, too.

Knowing that he honestly thought I was enjoying it… and had never cared enough to tell me to stop or that he loved me and I was better than that, and basically still didn’t care even now, as long as he was being paid rent… definitely the worst thing anyone has ever said to me.

my ‘shitty life choices’ were fine when my family were financially benefitting.

My husband told me I have 'a natural sneer' which I can only assume is even worse than resting bitch face.

He doesn't remember saying it, or why he thought to say it, but it's stuck with me for the last few years and I'm so much more conscious of my expression when my face is in repose.

Pissed me off and hurt me; he's not one of life's bad guys either, it was off the cuff but that made it cut all the deeper I guess.

My sister said,' While you were away (at college) Uncle Jack came to visit. We got the photo album out but first we took out all the ones of you because you looked so pathetic'. Still hurts nearly 70 years later. So unfair that she got the big tits and I got the glasses!

People can be so mean. I always try to think it says more about them than me but it is hard especially when it is a parent. I’ve always a bit of an imposter and have struggled with self esteem and I think it does come from some of the throw away comments from my parents and others as a child and teen.

some prize ones I think from my dad
’don’t worry love wear a low cut top no one will look at your face’
’don’t worry cleverer people than you have failed their a levels’

mum when I was under going fertility treatment
’IF you do get pregnant you must avoid putting on any more weight’

my brother when I was 10
’pretty girls can just marry a rich man but you will need to be able to earn your own money somewhere’
I always felt like a let down and it is only now with the menopause that I can think fuck them and their opinions I not too bad after all.

My half sister who was 16 years older than me used to tell me to drop dead when I was growing up 💔 I've been nc for quite a number of years! She didn't say it as a 'joke' I think my mere existence annoyed her.

”you are delusional, you are having a mental breakdown and need serious help, are you even listening to yourself, even my mum and DS agree with me, there is no way I'm having an affair” said by my ex husband who was indeed having an affair and who he did speak to his mum about and our adult son about my mental state when I though he was having an affair. It was 4 years ago and it’s never left me the way people thought I was going mad, and my MIL and our son have never ever questions him about why he said/did this.