Would you let husband play golf every Saturday?

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I say every Saturday as that is what it feels like. It's just what I know since being with my husband.

At first it didn't bother me too much, we would fall out now and again as I guess I felt like it took priority. He explained that he works so much that it is his respite and he needed to have that release.

But, we now have a 3 year old who loves spending time with their daddy.

When they were a baby, I didn't mind much. There had been times though that he still went to golf if I had been poorly or up or night which again, made us argue.

I am a stay at home mum, so I feel like I'm on the fence here. Should he get every Saturday to go and play golf? He leaves 7-8am and isn't usually home until 3ish.

Or should he be spending the weekend with his family? I just don't know any other father who does this. But then, I am lucky to stay at home which is what I want to do. I hardly get any respite myself; but apparently it's different...

What are your thoughts?

How lucky is your child that their dad sees them for one family night a week!

Solution is that he takes his kid with him to play golf. It’s the child that is missing their dad and waiting for attention.
kids soon learn not to bother if someone doesn’t bother with them. He can’t be a part time dad. He can play golf whenever but he can’t create those strong bonds and memories if he’s not physically there.
I imagine your kid would love some 1:1 daddy time so on the days he’s home, you need to go out so he can see how hard it is to entertain and feed etc.

Totally agree with you.

Each weekend he plays from 7am - 3pm on the Saturday you then go out for the corresponding amount of time on a Sunday

EVERY
SINGLE
TIME

My HB openly admits that looking after than a toddler all week is more stressful than 95% of jobs.

Nope definitely not

And she is still breastfeeding/wakes up numerous times in the night. She has never slept through.

Separate to your selfish husband, if you can sort this out, life will feel a lot less shit. A three year does not need to wake multiple times to feed.

I have a number of friends who are into cycling. Seems like the deal they have is that they are on the road as early as possible and are done and dusted and back home at 10-11am rather the being gone all day. I row, I'm on the water at 6.30am and done by 10.30am to crack on with the rest of the weekend. I do think it is important to have 'down' time so long as the other person in the relationship has equal time off.

I don't think it's unreasonable for him to have some time each week, but he's an astonishingly poor golfer if one round is taking 7-8 hours!

He needs an early start and to be back for lunch, then you have similar time to do something of your choice on a Sunday.

He's very lucky....cause my child goes away with him most weekends to do the same hobby!

How much parenting does he do? Will your little one go to pre school?

Well done for missing important information out of your original response!