Husband has announced he's leaving me

[stomachcramps]

Hey 👋
I've been on Mumsnet since 2010 and I've posted many times previously and notably in times of crisis.
I've always received wise words and a handy hold.
Excuse my jocular tone - I think I'm just in shock.
I posted back in 2012 when my husband cheated on his stag do.
I ignored most of the advice given and stayed with him.
We've had our ups and downs but I'd consider it, up until now, to have been a successful and happy marriage.
He sat me down earlier and just said: I need to talk to you.
There's someone else.
That's it - He's leaving.
Not now, but soon.
Upping and going.
He cried loads. I was emotionless and motionless.
Mumsnet - you're famous for helping women to get their ducks in a row. What do I need to know? Be wary of?
We have an eleven year old who starts high school in September.
(D)H plans to move 300 miles away to be with the fifteen years newer and shinier model of me.

Please don't take any financial or legal advice you read here.

Hope your weekend was ok. Is DC back home with you?

All the best to you.

Surely if he is deliberately depriving himself of income he shouldn't be able to claim from his ex-wife.

You'd think not wouldn't you?

He is choosing to move away & have no(?) contact with his son.

Doesn't sound as if he gave up a career to be a sahd.

So sorry for both you and your daughter. You must get your paperwork sorted, just do it, don't have to tell him anything, it's not his business any more! Take time to spend with your daughter, she may have questions and be upset by what he is doing. Be honest, but not vindictive about him, with her. (not always easy I know, but worth it for your relationship with her which is what is really important). She will work it out for herself over time. When this happened to me my son told me something I will always remember, he said, " I didn't realise mum, it was always you, you kept it all together for us before and after he left." His words gave me so much strength and determination to keep going and make a new life for all of us. Many years have passed now and we are fine, children and grandchildren went off to university and then came back to live locally, the family has grown again full of love and laughter and my ex missed it all. Good luck and God Bless X

rubesmum
For goodness sake she has a son not a daughter. Did you actually read what she has written.

@stomachcramps, how are you doing?

Jesus Christ. I'm speechless. What a coward!

@nipsmum what?! This is like stories you used to hear about marriages in the 1930s. I'm so sorry - how are you now? Did he ever see his daughters again?

@stomachcramps hello OP - I had this thread in my watched list and can't believe it's been 18 months! If you are still around, how are things? Hope you and son are thriving!

Hi!
I know the OP very well 😉
She is absolutely loving life!
The turd moved away and Stomach Cramps only regret is that all this didn’t happen years ago.
Thanks for checking in on ~me~ her

I'm sure most of mumsnet will have cheers and congrats to pass on to her! Great to hear!

Wonderful update! This is a good reminder for those for whom it all seems so hard at the start that it WILL be okay in the end!

How did it go with L'il Miss Tiktok? Badly I hope!

Lasted all of two minutes and fell apart

Hey 👋 I’m sorry I didn’t reply.
Doing really well. Really happy.
Thank you.

Shame....

How not at all surprising! Hope your DS is doing Ok. My two ACs are in Y7 and Y9. Start of secondary is a wild ride.

So glad to hear all is going well. ♥️

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