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[Banana1979]

My boyfriend is guilt tripping me for money
I have put a screenshot of part of the message
Im in my overdraft and I told him I cannot transfer money from an overdraft to him. I am sick and tired of him asking it’s every other day I’m giving him a tenner or £20
he has told me today he’s starving
I offered to send him an Amazon shop about £15 worth of food until he gets paid next week
and he’s being nasty about it. I’ve said to him I have a child to look after and a lot of rent to pay I do get some universal credit towards the rent but not all as I work
. However I don’t understand why he is responding like it’s my fault I cannot send him money
I’ve already sent him money this month and I’m sick and tired of it and I’m ready to let him go. I am sick of this. I feel like I am being used for money he doesn’t do anything for me he doesn’t take me out didn’t buy me a birthday present asks for travel when he comes to see me it’s about £16 both ways tube and bus
he also smokes and is childless. He’s loving and caring when he comes to see me, but I am pretty fed up of him now.
i have a 9 yo DD
I don’t even know what to say to him, because I’m terrible at ending things, because for some reason I find it difficult to let people go even when they are terrible to me. My dad left when I was younger and I used to smell his T-shirt as a kid and hang onto his clothes, wondering when he was ever going to come back I don’t know if it’s linked to that,the way but I definitely need some kind of fucking help here.
my daughters, father also left me suddenly after 13 years, 3 years ago to go and be with a 21 year old
when I try to end it, he says he’s going to go missing . If I don’t sending money, he sends me messages like this and ignores me all day. I know it’s continue. I just need help to fucking drop him. I’m sick of being treated this way. I’m very kind and loving person. Everybody tells me this. I’m 45 and probably stuck with horrible people because I feel like nobody will want me at my age, most men my age, want somebody in their 20s. I just feel sad

DUMP HIM

You know that its ok not to be with a man?
It would certainly be better to be single than with this one

Just dump him and block him.

Job done.

Your DC need you to keep a roof over their heads and food on the table.

This sponger is literally taking food out of your daughter’s mouth. Why would you let him do that? Just dump him and prioritise your child.

Dump him and block. He’s not loving and caring - he is using you as an ATM.

Are you so desperate to be in a relationship that you will tolerate anything???

Dump the scrounging fucker. I'd bet the money you're sending to him. Is either going on drink or drugs.

Is that a grown man conversing with you? I'm shocked!

The state of his English!

He's an illiterate chancer who must be dumped from a great height.

Do not send him any money or buy him anything unless it's a dictionary.

I’m going to send him a text with the details of his local mental health organisation. I’m so sorry I’ve come across as a needy person I am quite depressed so it doesn’t help.
I’ll probably do need the tough comments
my dd is fine he has everything she needs a more but I couldn’t afford a holiday this year and that money could’ve gone towards it so I hear what you were all saying

Why would you send an able bodied man food?

why does he think it’s okay to sponge off you?

why do you think it’s okay and give him money and send him things?

why are you taking money that should be used for your actual child to him???

Dump & block asap.

Get rid of this semi-literate (at best) moron, you deserve better

He's lying about going hungry. He doesn't want food, he wants money. Money you should be spending on your child. Just text 'I am not your personal ATM. We're done.'. Then block him.

I never suggest LTB… but seriously, LTB. If only for his text style!

Also, you sound intelligent, caring, lovely and sensible. If you put yourself in situations where nice people hang out, you’ll find one.

Urgh he types and demands like a toddler, I don’t know how you don’t have the ick. He is a total sponger, dump and block, if he goes “missing” that’s his choice.
not all men want 20 somethings, raise your standards, you deserve better than arseholes treating you like a bank.

Fucking hell what an utter dick.

dump and block; this relationship is sending an utterly toxic message to your child too.

it is 100% guaranteed he is never ever going to make you happy. Live your life.

DUMP

What an absolute pig.

If he was starving he would want the food hes smoking, drinking, gambling or out partying on your children's money take a look at your children and ask yourself what do they need a mum so desperate she pays for a man's scraps off attention or a mum who does the best for them and their security?

I feel like I am being used for money
Nope. You are being used for money.

You don't need to send him details of his local mental health organisation. He is not your problem. This fucking chancer is not going to top himself, he's just saying that to manipulate you.

Don't send him any more messages, even about mental health, because that is a manipulation tactic.

Block him now on everything, and get on with your day.

OP how on earth have you ended up with this guy!? He's barely literate and he's only nice to you when he gets what he wants. He's obviously using you and doesn't care about you at all or he wouldn't want you to go into overdraft.

Why can't he feed himself in his 40s? Can you do the Freedom Programme and read up on self esteem and strong boundaries?

Drugs and alcohol addict. Block and ditch him.

Have some self respect and don't date for a while, just concentrate on you and your kid.

Your a grown ass woman up. Be one! Block and delete everything that he sent you. He is a con man. And a sponging twat. Get rid! Seriously he isn't even a bf. He's a cunt using you for cash.

You sound like a loving caring person. The past issues with your relationships with men and your obvious fear of abandonment has given you an unhealthy view of what a relationship should be.
You are being financially abused by an illiterate would be cock lodger.
Use that money for therapy and for the love of God, dump him.
You deserve so much better.

"This isnt working for me. Don't contact me again"

Block.

Go for a walk, breath in some fresh air.

Good luck OP. I'm glad you're angry about this. Time for action