Boyfriend guilt tripping me for money screenshots

[Banana1979]

My boyfriend is guilt tripping me for money
I have put a screenshot of part of the message
Im in my overdraft and I told him I cannot transfer money from an overdraft to him. I am sick and tired of him asking it’s every other day I’m giving him a tenner or £20
he has told me today he’s starving
I offered to send him an Amazon shop about £15 worth of food until he gets paid next week
and he’s being nasty about it. I’ve said to him I have a child to look after and a lot of rent to pay I do get some universal credit towards the rent but not all as I work
. However I don’t understand why he is responding like it’s my fault I cannot send him money
I’ve already sent him money this month and I’m sick and tired of it and I’m ready to let him go. I am sick of this. I feel like I am being used for money he doesn’t do anything for me he doesn’t take me out didn’t buy me a birthday present asks for travel when he comes to see me it’s about £16 both ways tube and bus
he also smokes and is childless. He’s loving and caring when he comes to see me, but I am pretty fed up of him now.
i have a 9 yo DD
I don’t even know what to say to him, because I’m terrible at ending things, because for some reason I find it difficult to let people go even when they are terrible to me. My dad left when I was younger and I used to smell his T-shirt as a kid and hang onto his clothes, wondering when he was ever going to come back I don’t know if it’s linked to that,the way but I definitely need some kind of fucking help here.
my daughters, father also left me suddenly after 13 years, 3 years ago to go and be with a 21 year old
when I try to end it, he says he’s going to go missing . If I don’t sending money, he sends me messages like this and ignores me all day. I know it’s continue. I just need help to fucking drop him. I’m sick of being treated this way. I’m very kind and loving person. Everybody tells me this. I’m 45 and probably stuck with horrible people because I feel like nobody will want me at my age, most men my age, want somebody in their 20s. I just feel sad

He’s an illiterate scrounging bully. Being single is better than this. Come on OP.

His ltexts give me the ick. Can he not spell the basics?

Dump this scrounger!

You sound great, btw.

Dump him and you'll feel better.

Another nice woman shoring up a useless waster of a man. A better life awaits you @Banana1979 , please dump him and go and live that better life. Whatever problems he has are his to deal with, he'll never get better until he does

DUMP him.
He’s an illiterate user.
JUST DO IT.

Do right by your kid and dump this loser.

And definitely get into therapy and wait a long time before you date again. I mean that kindly. This guy is so awful that I imagine you do need to sort out why you chose to be with him in the first place.

And making suicide threats (going missing) is manipulation. Dump him.

What have I just read!!

@Banana1979 please if you can’t do it for yourself then do it for your child.

The man is a complete wanker.

You say when he sees you he is nice and loving yeah? Well of course he is.

He is going to be lovely when he sees you, if he wasn’t you would hardly keep giving him money would you, and obviously he wouldn’t get a shag that night…

Come on now my lovely, big girl pants on, you have nothing to loose. Dump the prick!!

You know you deserve more right??!

You deserve so much better than this. And you can immediate have something better by breaking things off with him today. Prioritise you and your DD. Imagine the example you are setting her by putting up with his shit. The way he talks to you is disgusting. You are more than enough by yourself.

The state of those texts, aren't you embarrassed?

You've posted about this before. You deserve better, don't let this carry on longer.

Your life will be better in so many ways without him in it.

You are not responsible for him either financially or otherwise. He is using you and does not care about you only what you can do for him.

Text him telling him it's over and then block him. Any threats to disappear or hurt himself are just manipulation. Presumably he survived well enough before you came along. You should expect so much more out of life.

Don't "try and end it", just do it. It doesn't need to be a conversation where he persuades you not to, it can be a WhatsApp message. "This is not the kind of relationship I want to be in, we are over" then as everyone else says block him.

Then take things day by day and don't contact him.

I thought you were about nineteen until I read this:

I’m 45 and probably stuck with horrible people because I feel like nobody will want me at my age

You're FORTY FIVE???

Dump this waster ASAP and open your eyes to the fact that having a boyfriend isn't your sole purpose in life. Be single and you will be happy.

@NoKids2 has given you excellent advice. End it and block

Wtf are those messages from him. I actually laughed 😂

He sounds like a 14 year old wannabe road man. What an absolute joke.

Block this ridiculous loser immediately. Job done.

The only thing you need to be sending him is "fuck off".

Please dump this scrounger. The idea that an able bodied man with no dependents is reliant on a single mum for food is crazy.

You’ll feel much better when you have got rid of him.

Get rid and then spend your free time working out why you need to be told this and why you allow this person near your child, and please for your child's sake learn from it

And it is harsh deliberately

Why on earth did you ever give him money to begin with? Text him and say it's not working, you want a boyfriend not a leech.

Do not be guilt tripped by someone who is bludging off you.
You know you have ever right to not to explain your own personal needs to him.
The best advice for you is no matter what you have and what you can afford, own, if you and your daughter are feed,warm, housed that's your priority.
Is that You Have Choices!

Choose a better uplifting man for yourself.
No man's worth it if he can not support himself.
You are worthy.
I took a long time to learn I had choices and I wish I had thought of that when I was in your position once.
Ditch, block!
He's smoking and what else!

I really wish I'd kept the note my (now ex) boyfriend left me years ago

We didn't live together at this point,but he left me a long rambling note asking if I could lend (and never pay back) £10 for phone credit,but 'not to worry if I didn't have it

He then ranted on about how he really needed this credit and he really needed me to 'lend' him the money and if I didn't,I was being tight

I didn't have 10p that day,let alone £10 so couldn't-he knew this

He also knew I didn't have much money,had kids to feed and clothe and he had a job (which he soon gave up in favour if sponging from me)

I was treated to the guilt trips and tears but I genuinely didn't have it

I want to go back in time and kick his arse out of my front door and to slam it behind him (he went on to shag my best friend,went to cocklodge from her,she was having none of it and kicked him out so he tried to come back-long story short,he ended up doing the same to a string of vulnerable women)

He,like this one,is a sponger,a parasite and will bleed you dry

At least mine could spell

Please,please,please dump him and move on with your money in your purse-dont be me

This man is not loving and caring. He is using you. You would be mentally and financially better off without him.
If you doubt yourself ask how on earth he managed financially before you. Recognising that threatening to 'Go missing' is control and abuse.
Sorry this sounds harsh but if you were my friend in rl this is what I would say.

You sound lovely but what part of this do you think is acceptable? Why is your bar so low that you would be in a relationship with someone who treats you like a cash point machine? All the money you have given him to spend on drugs could have provided you and your dd with a holiday.
Block him on all means of contact and be an example of a strong independent women with high standards to your dd.

Dump him he's clearly just using you as a source of money. What's to stop him in future demanding you start giving him more than your daughter? All that money you been sending him could go for days out with your daughter or treating yourself to a lunch out or something but it's going to this waste of space scrounger.

Love his texting alone is a straight ick 🤢🤮

I feel I can literally picture him through the screen… and it’s not someone I’d want a friend wasting her time with.