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I am in love and it's making me miserable

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 16:58

I realise this sounds ridiculous but I am completely in love with a guy who I met again for the first time in 10 years last night. He is a friend from school in NZ who is in the UK for work. He is leaving again on monday, just to go back to work, not back to NZ and the thought of it is making me actually cry. Am I a complete freak? what should I do? I am seriously thinking of moving back to NZ to be there when he gets back. Tell me how to get over this please!

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beansmum · 13/04/2008 14:42

not with my feet. will wear my best socks.

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QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 13/04/2008 14:45

Very nice he is too!!!

Good luck for later.

Paddlechick666 · 13/04/2008 14:47

beansmum, that sounds perfectly reasonable IMO.

mind you, maybe you can accelerate things a bit seeing as how he's back for dinner tonight?

nothing ventured, nothing gained and time is of the essence here.

can you tell I live vicariously?

Shitemum · 13/04/2008 14:47

Ok, leave your arms bare then, make him want to touch you!

dizzydixies · 13/04/2008 14:50

what did I miss what did I miss

are we buying hats yet?!?!?

dizzydixies · 13/04/2008 14:51

is there TOUCHING???!!!!!!???

stoppinattwo · 13/04/2008 14:54

OMG this is reeely exciting

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beansmum · 13/04/2008 14:58

I have butterflies, feel quite sick actually. He was sleeping in the living room last night and it was really hard not to jump in with him this morning, he was all cute and sleepy (and grumpy). I have been analysing his every move and I'm almost convinced that he does like me. He keeps touching me and standing really really close, he was showing me some photos and he lent over so that my head ended up resting on his arm. I probably should have moved it . and he picked me up to move me out of the way (while I was following him about inappropriately)

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dizzydixies · 13/04/2008 15:02

pmsl, this is just sooooooooooooo lovely

and for god sake get his mobile number so you cantext flirt

SheWillBeLoved · 13/04/2008 15:04

Aww this is so cute Looks through to the kitchen and notices the veg bubbling over and the overflowing dirty wash basket next to the machine .. So, is he staying over tonight too? A dvd and some nice wine afer DS is in bed maybe..?

Paddlechick666 · 13/04/2008 15:05

oooh good signs, excellent signs!

definately get his mobile number however which way you are able to!

WallOfSilence · 13/04/2008 15:08

Oooh he looks HOT!!!

Live your life to the full!!

Grab the moment when you can

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

getmeouttahere · 13/04/2008 15:15

He looks lovely.

JUMP HIM.

Anna8888 · 13/04/2008 15:29

Don't tell him - you might scare him

But be very kind and nice and friendly and tell him how much you would like to stay in touch.

If it's meant to be, it will happen

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beansmum · 13/04/2008 15:39

don't say that! I've decided now!

I'm sure we will keep in touch anyway, he's on facebook and I have his email address. I don't think I've really thought this through though. What if he feels the same way I do and it is all fine until June and then he goes back to work. It will be poo, he could be away for 6 months at a time. or he could be in the UK but based somewhere far far away.

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Anna8888 · 13/04/2008 15:43

Well, that's a good reason to not jump on him today but let things string along a bit while you think it all through.

But if it is meant to be, it is meant to be .

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beansmum · 13/04/2008 15:44

I really do think he is the perfect man for me though, if he would just get another job and take me back to NZ with him now and not in 5 years time. And ds loves him.

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Anna8888 · 13/04/2008 15:46

If that's what you would like, you need to (extremely gently) test the waters to see whether he might alter his plans for the woman he loves

hippipotami · 13/04/2008 16:33

Rats! Missed the picture again!

Good signs beansmum, and feel good things brewing...

QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 13/04/2008 17:03

Oh good signs here. I am ridiculously excited about all this - can't wait for the next update!

PatsyCline · 13/04/2008 17:43

Beansmum, I need some romance in my life even if it's just through you. I so hope this works out for you - missed out on seeing the photo but judging by the other posts he's worth taking a chance for. Don't let a good thing pass you by.

Patsy

MadameCh0let · 13/04/2008 18:20

Agree with Anna888. He definitely likes you and is definitely attracted to you too, so if it's meant to be it will happen!!

MinkyBorage · 13/04/2008 18:56

It sounds like he definitely likes you, and may be building up to take the initiative himself with any luck! lol at following him around inappropriately! IMO though, if it comes to the crunch, far better to regret something you have done or said then something you haven't!

getmeouttahere · 13/04/2008 19:14

"Accidental" touching

"Picking you up to get you out of the way"

You are SOOOO in there.

purpleduck · 13/04/2008 20:59

beanie, i hope you are mentally logging all the deatails to tell us all