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I am in love and it's making me miserable

232 replies

beansmum · 12/04/2008 16:58

I realise this sounds ridiculous but I am completely in love with a guy who I met again for the first time in 10 years last night. He is a friend from school in NZ who is in the UK for work. He is leaving again on monday, just to go back to work, not back to NZ and the thought of it is making me actually cry. Am I a complete freak? what should I do? I am seriously thinking of moving back to NZ to be there when he gets back. Tell me how to get over this please!

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dizzydixies · 12/04/2008 18:19

yipee, I love a romantic cliff hanger

CrackerOfNuts · 12/04/2008 18:19

Thank the lord for that

LynetteScavo · 12/04/2008 18:25

I bet he's feeling the same way.

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 18:29

I hope so

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StillWaters · 12/04/2008 18:30

Can't you go and tell him no?? while we're all sitting here eagerly awaitig a touching romantic scene? Go on, go on....

NotABanana · 12/04/2008 18:32

Joining in to get it on my threads.

I agree about not declaring undying love.

Tell him you have really enjoyed your time with him and would he like to go out for dinner sometime?????

Text if too shy

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 18:33

He's in a pub with his little brother and lots of other men I don't know, and I would have to take ds with me. So no, you'll just have to wait until tomorrow!

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StillWaters · 12/04/2008 18:35

oh alright then I suppose I'll just have to watch 'I'd do anything' for amusement tonight instead.

But you can spend tonight planning what you will wear and what you will say

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 18:36

I might even shave my legs for the first time in about 6 months.

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StillWaters · 12/04/2008 18:39

Beansmum, I have looked at your profile and I acn tell you are very lovely even from your hiding behind your hands in the bunny ears photo.

I am very confident he is likely to be feeling the same.

When that 'spark' occurs it is rarly one way IMO.

MadameCh0let · 12/04/2008 18:40

You don't have to bear your soul and risk making a fool of yourself.

If you say something like "I will miss you an awful lot" it speaks volumes but if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings you won't feel humiliated.

Joke about missing NZ, tell him you're homesick for the place. Tell him you like Kiwi men. Tell him you'd love to see your son grow up and play rugby for NZ...

If you say all that, you won't have made a fool of yourself, but if he feels for you, he will know enough to know that he wouldn't be knocked back if he asked you to come back with him.

If he's a nice guy, he wouldn't humiliate you by telling all your mutual acquaintances bck home that you liked him and he didn't like you back!! That's teenage stuff. He's a nice man right?

dizzydixies · 12/04/2008 18:40

you could text and ask him if he has plans for tomorrow or wants to meet up?

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 18:41

when we were at school he liked me way more than I liked him...but that was a long time ago

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StillWaters · 12/04/2008 18:41

Yes deffo shave your legs.

Do all beutifying processes you can think of. It will give you something to do, get you preapred and excited and give you inner confidence tomorrow.

MadameCh0let · 12/04/2008 18:42

PS I had a peek at your photos! You are beautiful and you are young. Go for it honey.

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 18:42

he's coming back to mine tomorrow morning and staying sunday night, he's only not staying tonight because he will be out really late and the taxi would be about £25

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StillWaters · 12/04/2008 18:43

Good advive from MadamCholet, drop the hints initially, gauge his response, if good, make hints more and more obvious as day progresses, until it's staring you both in the face.

dizzydixies · 12/04/2008 18:43

get thee to the shower and get buffing, scrubbing, smoothed and polished!!!!!

couple of bottles of wine wouldn't go amiss either

QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 12/04/2008 18:44

Fingers crossed!

StillWaters · 12/04/2008 18:44

He's staying at yours???

DEFINETLY shave your legs.

I will not be anticipating an MN update until some time MONDAY then!

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 18:45

I don't know how you can tell I'm beautiful from those photos! (I am though!)

am I reading too much into the fact that he is staying with me and not with his brother? probably.

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MadameCh0let · 12/04/2008 18:48

MEN aside, I moved from the UK to Ireland when my DD was just four and it was a really good time to move, as she forgot her friends in 3 weeks and just started the school system here on day one, same as all the other children. I loved where I lived in the UK and I miss a lot of really great friends I made there, but it's very comforting to be home again when you have children. As a single mum I need my family...

GL! Now log off and start exfoliating, moisturising, conditioning your eyelashes

dizzydixies · 12/04/2008 18:50

where does his brother live?

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beansmum · 12/04/2008 18:53

england somewhere, but he's up here for the weekend and staying in some self catering place.

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dizzydixies · 12/04/2008 18:54

well I would say its a positive sign that he wants to stay with you and NOT his brother