I am in love and it's making me miserable

[beansmum]

I realise this sounds ridiculous but I am completely in love with a guy who I met again for the first time in 10 years last night. He is a friend from school in NZ who is in the UK for work. He is leaving again on monday, just to go back to work, not back to NZ and the thought of it is making me actually cry. Am I a complete freak? what should I do? I am seriously thinking of moving back to NZ to be there when he gets back. Tell me how to get over this please!

i think as it's late i'd just slip into a nice pair of pajamas.

you know, sends the right note, 'I'm just being me.'

plus, they're easy to slip out of

I don't have his number. I should have asked for it actually, he said he would call me tomorrow morning but my phone will be switched off. poo.

he's not coming back until tomorrow expat...

damn, there go my plans.

k, erm, yeah, jeans and top and comfortable shoes. last thing you want or need are your feet bothering you.

he sounds like he'd be the jeans and top type.

maybe some floaty earrings, a little lipstick or gloss, a brush of bronzing powder.

photo of him on my profile page just now...

so so so excited, but so so so scared.

good lord he IS yum!!

expat, will pick you up at 10am and we can nip over for a swatch at him in real life

he's HOT!

he's MUCH hotter in real life

do you think his ears are burning?!?

i'd want to have his babies, too.

i can see why you're nervous.

he's got a great smile.

bet he's dead fit, too.

There is no way I am going to be able to hide this from him even if I chicken out (not going to though), I am going to burst into tears when he leaves on monday.

then maybe it's better to come clean tomorrow so you can enjoy the time together to the max.

but that would be dead hard, too.

right then, off to bed with you, want sparkly skin and bright eyes for tomorrow

keep it bright and breezy and make him realise that he can't live without you either

ROFL - expat..

Ok. I'm going bed. too excited/nervous to sleep though.

He looks gorgeous. Did he come up to Scotland specifically to see you? Do you get the feeling he still likes you? (Come on, you MUST be able to tell, especially if you've known him since you were 8) I have no idea from your posts whether he's still hot for you or not, though the fact that he liked you way more than you liked him back at school is a very good sign. How long are you going to spend together? To be honest I wouldn't jump in at the deep end and tell him tomorrow staraight away; not because I think he's not into you, just because it'll work out better if you just look BLOODY gorgeous and be as charming and smiley as possible and slightly flirty then he can get all excited about you (if he isn't already) and he'll try and arrange to see you again. I'm only saying this because you know how blokes love the chase and blurting out that you love him and wannna go back to NZ with him and live happily ever after is the type of thing that might scare a bloke. I don't mean let this chance pass you by; i just mean be clever and let him be the one to blurt out that he can't bear to be without you! Subtle flirting and long lingering looks and looking fab will do the trick by the end of tomorrow. Tell him how much fun you've had with him for sure, but try and lure him into being the one who begs you to come back with him. They like it better if they think it was all their idea and they had to talk you into it
Does it feel romantic? i can't tell from your posts whether its felt like a romantic time. Has he said anything to make you think he's feeling the same way? Look good tomorrow and tell him how impressed you are with his career and everything he's achieved- flatter him and he'll be putty in your hands !!! You must be able to tell if he's been giving you Goo Goo eyes or not.

he is yum

You can almost hear us all drooling.

I THINK
You wouldn't be asking, or even contemplating unless you had an inkling that he felt the same way....am i right?

I would drop a big hint. Not too vague though, he's yummy, but he is still a MAN!!

noooooooooo, can't see picture, missed the picture, was I 3 minutes too late....
have literally just read this thread from the start, and now, no picture [sob]

good luck beansmum, just be yourself (not very helpful that, but all I can think of )

Noooooo, missed the picture too. We'll all be back here tomorrow waiting for an update you know!!!!!!

wonder how it's all going, really well I hope!

missed the pic too but that's prob for the best as I'd just get

Just seen this....it is SOOOOOOOO exxciting! Fingers and toes crossed for you BeansMum

no exciting news yet...

He came back last night instead of staying with his brother but it was late so we just went to bed (separately). I went to church this morning and he was still in bed when I got back, ds got in with him.

He has gone back into town to meet his brother and buy some shoes. He invited me along but ds is asleep. I did kind of get the impression that he likes me, a bit, I think...

He'll be back for dinner and I will ask him if he wants to come back after the funeral on tuesday because I have loved catching up with him and would like to see a bit more of him before he goes back to work. That's not scary is it?

(photo back up for a while, don't want anyone to miss out on the yumminess)

Forget shoes, jeans and bare feet is sexier.
Good luck.