I am in love and it's making me miserable

[beansmum]

I realise this sounds ridiculous but I am completely in love with a guy who I met again for the first time in 10 years last night. He is a friend from school in NZ who is in the UK for work. He is leaving again on monday, just to go back to work, not back to NZ and the thought of it is making me actually cry. Am I a complete freak? what should I do? I am seriously thinking of moving back to NZ to be there when he gets back. Tell me how to get over this please!

UPDATE

Lovely man slept here last night. We were chatting until midnight, then went to separate beds. After about 30 mins he came through to my room and asked if he could get in with me. We were snogging and stuff, but I got really embarrassed for some reason, could be the flabby baby belly and the fact I had my socks on, got the giggles and the moment passed. Then ds woke up and wanted to get in with me, so lovely man went back to his own bed, I put ds in my bed and went and got in with lovely man. We just went to sleep after that and now he's gone to catch a flight to see a sick friend and wont be able to come back until december, then I'm moving to NZ in january. I don't know whether I am happy or even more sad. Long, sorry.

can it be called a baby belly when ds is 4?

ok, I am definitely more sad. Do I just need to accept that this is going nowhere and get over it? How?

Oh my goodness! Hooray for snogging. How is this going nowhere? It's just a slow burner, that's all ...

NO no no don't accept it's over and get over it. Get into his bed and get your leg over it!

I have to say I reckon he's not interested. If it's gone nowhere in 6 months it's because it isn't going to. Because you have some history, he's being polite and not just shagging you and then buggering off.

peasoup, I love the advice you gave on here.

beansmum, sorry it didn't work out. Don't shag him! It'll make him 1,000 times' more difficult to get over.