Sent a bum pic - he asked if I had worked out then said room for improvement?

[sarahbranningtonxx]

Bit of context lol.. I sent a bum pic to my fiance... he replied why is there underwear on and then asked if I had worked out (we both know that we both need to work out but both haven't got around to it yet, a mutual thing, i ask him he asks me)
I kinda got offended because i thought that meant the pic didn't look good, so I replied kind of silly saying oh why don't you like my bum how it is haha and he replied "lol nice" (as in sarcastic like oh nice of you to say) - but didn't reassure me or anything which left me feeling a little insecure. So then I literally just said "that was a question" and he said he does like it how it is but there is always room for improvement as you would say. (i would not say this about his physical appearance)

I kind of feel like this is a odd thing to say lol - I mean granted there is! I have put on a stone or two. Just made me feel insecure, and feel it wasn't really needed. thoughts??

Prop it up somewhere, point your bum at it and tell the phone to take a picture.

I thought that too. Is it, @sarahbranningtonxx ?

Boo! 👎

I know so little about how to get my phone to do things I think I would literally say "phone, could you please take an arse photo for me?"

Where's the mirror, lie on your back or stomach? What happens if you can't get up again? I'm clearly too old for this

I don't get this. So you'd be taking a photo of the reflection of your arse flat against the floor?

I can't believe people can't figure out how to take a photo of ones arse.

Do we need a diagram like a parking thread?

I would say that I’ll try all these out and share the results with you all, but I’ll spare you that one…

Yes please to a diagram.

Perhaps you are just giving a very poor impression of the man and he is indeed a gem, but based on what you've said so far I'd wager he's only very against people cheating on him ...

I’d never send anyone a picture of my arse 😂 but that’s really horrible of him to say. I’ve though that about some men but would never say it to them. It’s all weird and childish.

I'm assuming the peachy bit rather the rusty sheriffs badge??

I agree with all of this.

OP, I feel very sorry for you. Your relationship has no legs I'm afraid. You cannot possibly be truly happy with this man.

I think you have to have a really, really exceptionally hot body to look good in a random phone pic sent to someone who is not imminently expecting sex but just sitting at work thinking about other stuff.
I thought my last partner was hot as fuck - its the most sexual attraction I've ever felt for a man - but if he just randomly sent through an arse pic, I'd be like 'Ewww'. It would do NOTHING for me.

Sexual messages are far better if you want to get the sort of response you seemed to. Work on getting good at those.

I think you sound a bit stiff and judgy. Just relax a bit. You might be threatened by sexting. I think deep down this is the issue. You don’t want women sending pics of their bodies to people under any circumstances and if they do they are either insecure or narcissistic. But this thread is about the OPs fiancés response. She was not asking for opinions on her picture sending habit. I just wanted to point out that some people don’t really think it’s a big deal to send an arse or tit pic to someone. And the fact she has does not make her sad.

What the actual. Piss taker.

Your relationship has no legs I'm afraid.

But we have established it has an arse though.

iPhones have a timer function - for anyone struggling to work out the physics.

It's very rude of him. He doesn't deserve more nice pics. If someone sends you a sexy picture (cosensually of course) any comment has to be positive. That's the rule. I cannot even imagine what my DP would do to me if I said "room for improvement." There are things we both know are true, but we do not say them.

Jesus Christ, and you are planning to marry this man? Just don't!