Sent a bum pic - he asked if I had worked out then said room for improvement?

[sarahbranningtonxx]

Bit of context lol.. I sent a bum pic to my fiance... he replied why is there underwear on and then asked if I had worked out (we both know that we both need to work out but both haven't got around to it yet, a mutual thing, i ask him he asks me)
I kinda got offended because i thought that meant the pic didn't look good, so I replied kind of silly saying oh why don't you like my bum how it is haha and he replied "lol nice" (as in sarcastic like oh nice of you to say) - but didn't reassure me or anything which left me feeling a little insecure. So then I literally just said "that was a question" and he said he does like it how it is but there is always room for improvement as you would say. (i would not say this about his physical appearance)

I kind of feel like this is a odd thing to say lol - I mean granted there is! I have put on a stone or two. Just made me feel insecure, and feel it wasn't really needed. thoughts??

I honestly don’t understand what the issue is with a ‘bum pic’.

Is it the word bum that posters have an issue with or the picture itself?

Lots of people use the word bum and lots of people send their partners photos of themselves.

I don’t see the issue with either and posters aren’t saying what their issue is either.

I'm absolutely speechless x

What's right with it you mean.
I can't imagine how empty some ones life must be to actually take a photo of their own bum, send it to someone and then start a thread on MN because it didn't get the reaction they wanted.
How sad that civilisation has been reduced to this.

This. OP someone who presumably wants to marry you shouldn't be talking to you like this.

we both know that we both need to work out but both haven't got around to it yet, a mutual thing, i ask him he asks me

and he said he does like it how it is but there is always room for improvement

So you have told him you need to work out (ie need improvement).

But when he tells you it needs improvement you feel insecure. You have put on a stone or two so it's likely that you're intended working out is to help you lose weight and tone up.

He also did say he liked it.

If he'd said "I like it and hope you stay that shape all our lives" would you have been upset because he hadn't listened to you telling him you needed to work out and that you've put on a couple of stone (apologies if these 1 or 2 stone aren't ones which you're bothered about - the tone of your post indicates they're extra ones you'd rather not have)?

Anyway, have a chat with him, tell him how you feel and see how he responds.

What's "PG"?

I think it's a reference to film ratings

A-ha, thank you.

Ask for a penis pic then respond with wheres the rest of it? ( I'm joking before the pc crew start quoting me lol )

It’s a mutual thing you both asking each other if you’ve worked out because you haven’t worked out, and both need a bit of timber off. … I actually think this is quite a funny and charming in-joke.

So you send your bum and he wishes you had sent it without the pants (which sounds fairly complimentary) and then asks if you’ve been working out - which is your in-joke.

Presumably he was expecting you to either follow up by sending a naked bum picture or reply with ‘well yes I have been working out thanks for noticing, have you?’ Or something like that.

Instead you tried to make him send more compliments which he didn’t do because it takes the fun out of the banter or whatever. Now you’re offended.

I think he likes you, likes your bum, and was being cheeky (no pun intended) and in the mood for a laugh or you telling him off.

How about you both start working out together and have a laugh getting the weight off and you can send him a picture of it each week and ask how much improvement there has been.

And with that I need to log off and think about getting a hobby or something 🤣

Have you used your actual name for your username?

Would you consider sending him a picture of your face?

@Surprisedmystified 100% agree

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
You wanted positive and reassuring declarations he gave factual pragmatic reply.

Basically.

It’s a good thing you don’t do it, your judgy pants would get in the way anyway.

Really? You can say cunt on here and everything.

He's joking I think...

I think discerning is the word you're looking for. Not judgy.
I'm discerning about how I spend my time.

That was the first thing that came to my mind - negging.

😂

Nope, I don’t need you to put words in my mouth.
You can choose not to do it, and I and others can choose to do it, and that’s ok. There’s nothing wrong with doing it, it’s a bit of fun.

I think some people have found it fun until the relationhip breaks down and then there's that awful feeling that there are naked pictures of you all over the phone of someone who probably now is not your friend.

I have sent semi naked pics to a man recently and they are so fab that I don’t care if they end up in wrong hands and circulated. Honestly would not care if he showed them to the pub he drinks in I’m so proud of them. But I do think carefully about what I send and if I wouldn’t want it shared in Instagram (obvs prefer it wasn’t but worse case) then I wouldn’t share it. Agree an arse pic that you’re not proud of is a gamble.

I wouldn't even know how to photograph my own backside!

Back in my day we used a photocopier...

Oh, and OP: His reaction is just banter. If he was there with you, you would be able to tell from his facial expression. He just hasn't worked out that it might not come across as a text.

How old are you?