Pic attached - controlling

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Please help me to see that this is not normal and that I need to cut him off.

Fell in love with another love bombing narcissist and I think I'm about to have to try and cut myself loose...

' cleared up after both of you '

please tell me you haven't moved this man into your home and that you have a child living there ?

or is he referring to cleaning up after a cat !

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon my thoughts.

Block.

Do not date again until you have done the Freedom Programme or seen a therapist. You need help to make sure you don’t repeat this dating pattern again and again. X

Text him one more time asking him to not contact you again.
Don’t put kisses or love you at the end.

Then just ignore every message and phone call.

If you have a weak moment and want to text him then come on here and tell us and we’ll talk it through with you and you can think about whether you really want to do it or not.

How long had you been together?

op won’t be back

and this will rumble on indefinitely

i just hope no children involved but PP mentioned there is

No no no no no! Get out NOW.

Also why does he think you're interested in pics of his van 😂 men are ridiculous

Run for the hills. You don't want this.

This man is unhinged.

Block and don't answer any of his messages.

The DC sound like they're OP's from a previous relationship 🙏🙏🙏

I mean...how did you not spot this op? He's awful.

It has nothing to do with being an 'empath'. You just didn't spot the signs early. Narcissists are not fussy. They cast a wide net. If you don't recognise the signs, you keep them longer than you should and then it's harder to leave them.

Don't send him shit about 'being strong' you've just told him he's a weakness and if he keeps on at you, you'll cave.

Don't tell Narcissists your weaknesses.

Just tell him to fuck off and never contact you again. Then block him. If he harasses you, call the police.

Stay single for a while. Learn red flags.

@Pinkbonbon
I think she has already caved. No sign of her.

I don't think the language used by lots of people responding here has helped the OP feel like she could come back and discuss/update more.

People like OP need to be supported softly, I don't see how people think speaking abruptly to someone who's tried reaching out for help but who's clearly being manipulated is going to help the OP.

OP please feel free to message me if you want some non judgmental hand holding during this time.

B l o c k

Exactly that.

An “empath” is someone who overlooks red flags, makes excuses for other people behaving like this guy and stays too long with him.

A non-empath is just someone with self respect who would have kicked him to the kerb at the first sign of him acting like a knob.

OP has even made it part of her identity with her username.