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191 replies

attractedtothenarcissist · 07/07/2024 20:27

Please help me to see that this is not normal and that I need to cut him off.

Fell in love with another love bombing narcissist and I think I'm about to have to try and cut myself loose...

Pic attached - controlling
OP posts:
ThePoetsWife · 07/07/2024 20:28

Run.

ShanghaiDiva · 07/07/2024 20:28

Run fast.

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/07/2024 20:29

And don’t look back

onemorerose · 07/07/2024 20:29

Ugh sorry, you’re right, this would really turn me off him.

TerfTalking · 07/07/2024 20:29

Sheesh, what a dick.

Fupalover · 07/07/2024 20:29

Im not sure about snapchat as im too old but does he mean like on Whatsapp he knows youre online but online and not replying to him?

Wormfanclub · 07/07/2024 20:30

Bin him off! What a twat.

Glad you can see it.

Lostworlds · 07/07/2024 20:30

I rarely say block but in this instance, block!

AmelieTaylor · 07/07/2024 20:30

✂️ ✂️✂️✂️✂️✂️

BeckiWithAnI · 07/07/2024 20:31

Block and run 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

StopInhalingRevels · 07/07/2024 20:32

Yeah, don't even respond. Just block. He's psychotic.

JustRollWithIt · 07/07/2024 20:32

That is awful. How long have you been together? Get out and don't look back. I'm glad you can see it. Is he often like this?

jelly79 · 07/07/2024 20:33

Bin him for calling you 'bub'

Then block him completely for being a complete arse!!

DarkDarkNight · 07/07/2024 20:33

🚩 get rid. What a weirdo checking what I assume is your number of Snapchats sent? Who could be arsed.

I’d dump him for leaving a space before his question marks and commas let alone being this demanding and controlling.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 07/07/2024 20:33

Nope. I'd be blocking.

LittleGreenDragons · 07/07/2024 20:34

Agree with the others, he's not a good one.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 07/07/2024 20:34

🏃‍♀️ ....

StormingNorman · 07/07/2024 20:35

A PP said it best. Block and run.

what’s a snap score?

Ifeellikeateenageragain · 07/07/2024 20:41

OP, this is the start of scary territory. He's monitoring you and he's TELLING you that he's monitoring you. It will only get worse from here. If you do NOT leave this relationship now you are letting him know that you are OK with this behaviour and that will be the green light for him to become even more controlling.

Run.
Run.
Run.

Julyshouldbesunny · 07/07/2024 20:43

Did you do a Claire's Law check? If not do one. Block anyway..

Left · 07/07/2024 20:48

Sounds like you’ve had a tough weekend, care is not easy!! Urgh he should be checking in and sympathetic not being an absolute twaflange.

Sparklfairy · 07/07/2024 20:54

Felt a bit sick reading that as really thought it was my ex. Even down to the 'bub' and the excessive kisses, as well as the accusations. Then I saw he can spell 'you're' so I guess it isn't my ex...

<shudder> It doesn't get better. I'm glad you're apparently not taking his shit but you need to run for the hills.

thecatsarecrazy · 07/07/2024 20:54

I used to communicate with a narcissist who would do all those kisses, does he get weird if you don't send kisses back? And witholds them if you displease him? He's not called Mark is he?

Luio · 07/07/2024 20:55

That would scare me! Don’t have anything more to do with him.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/07/2024 20:55

Not just an arsehole but a dangerous one at that, fucking run.