'Forgot' to text me last night - find out this morning a single girl is at the house?

[janniebxoxox]

Sorry I have rewritten this post as the last one was worded bad:

I just want some validation on whether i am in the wrong here please ladies and gents! happy saturday lol

Fiance was meant to be going to his friends house for the weekend with another friend and his friends wife. The friends wife didn't end up going because her sister is having relationship problems. Anyway, they went and last night I could tell my fiance was really drunk, videos on IG of shots, dancing etc. Still I kept my cool and didn't get annoyed. I am working away at the minute so communication really means a lot to me. Anyway, we ALWAYS say goodnight/goodmorning for 2 years we always have, rarely forget unless he is plastered drunk. I wake up this morning and no text, but I go onto IG and the wife has put a video up of them all laughing and joking setting off fireworks at 3am... so I call my partner at 3.30 (he is 5 hours behind) and no answer. must be asleep. So I send a argumentative kinda text saying thanks for the text, im going to do that to you tonight then if thats how we act (childish ino my bad)

He wakes up and automatically starts on the defensive saying i called him in the middle of the night (3.30 and he went to bed at 3 is hardly middle of night) and that im crazy blablabla its his friends sister, and is he not allowed to be around his friends mum who is 60 now and "do i hear myself" i reiterate he didnt text me and he always does and he says he didnt because i was asleep and he just forgot. made me feel better :/ not

Anyway I just go on the girls IG and shes deleted all photos of her bf so completely single... great! he is staying there again tonight (even tho he said he might be back friday night or saturday morning) and when i ask why he wouldn't just spend the day there and come home he said because he planned to stay. Now, I am planning to go over my friends house and I might stay over, and he really doesn't want me too and said stupid things like "good go share a room with one of her male friends". I don't see the difference, if he is around females then surely i can stay at my friends house with males around?

Am I wrong? Should he compromise and come home to please me? should i force him to come home? he wouldn't anyway. I feel i am never listened too, am i being unrealistic though with this example and being crazy? All i wanted was some validation and an apology, he said why would he apologise when he has done nothing wrong and now saying i ruin everything i dont want him to ever have fun...

It all sounds a bit messy really, but the main thing I got from it was that he's controlling and jealous and has double standards for you - that is not ok.

Both of you, it's too much drama. If I was you I'd say "sod it" and enjoy being single for a while. I imagine you are early/mid 20s and even though I was that age 30 years ago and there was no social media and no way of keeping tabs on people I wouldn't have put up with that type of nonsense.

You're both controlling, jealous and infantile.

Neither of you trust each other - ‘I trust you but not other boys / girls’ is nonsensical. Unless either of you thinks the other one is likely to be drugged and rapped by someone else then it’s not everyone else you don’t trust, it’s your partner.

@YesThatsATurdOnTheRug double standards because he thinks he can go to a bar and no women would hit on him but i would go to a bar and men hit on women - thats why he thinks its diff rules - not on my watch lol

'A single bird'?

You sound very young/immature. Why on earth would you think he'll be with some other woman just because she's there?? Would you make a beeline for a single man if you were away?

Clearly there's a lot of mistrust and far too much controlling behaviour on your part .

YABU.

You do know this is a site for grown ups don't you? This all sounds like it'd be more at home on Reddit.

You seem to be full of misogynistic language, OP.

Calling women "birds".

I trust my partner to not cheat on me. Why don't you?
Honestly you both sound immature, and you sound jealous and hard work.

You both need to grow up

Your reaction was way out of line. He may have forgotten to text you or fallen asleep before he had a chance. You can be mildly perturbed he didn't text but you can't go in all guns blazing when he hasn't actually done anything wrong.

His reaction wasn't great but it's in reaction to yours.

There are single women everywhere. They're allowed to exist without being accused of being after your boyfriend.

I'm guessing you're quite young. That's ok but think about your actions and if you'd like to be treated that way.

So what if men hit on you. Men try to hit on me all the time. I don't wear my wedding ring ever. My husband trust me 100%. In 15 years I've never cheated. He's travelled the world months at a time and I've never begrudged him a good night out, questioned who he's with, if they are single ect. If I can't trust him I'll dump his arse.

I've been married for 25 years and we've always been respectful towards one another, and we trust one another, too.

‘Single bird’ deleted all the pics of her boyf on IG so now she must be single init bruv?
and he didn’t say good night! Fuck him! Tell his teacher! Fuck that shit.

If you are over 18 then you are an absolute bampot.

I really hope this is made up and people aren't this pathetic.

This wouldn't bother me because I trust my partner. Personally I think it's abit childish to be annoyed he's staying overnight somewhere where there's a single female present - that doesn't mean anything in itself. Is there a reason why you don't trust him or why you need a goodnight text every night? This all sounds like too much drama for me and I couldn't be in a relationship like this.

@Greatmate exactly - if he trusts me then it shouldnt matter if men hit on me or not. We went out once and a guy come up to me so he always says thats why - but it shouldnt be double standards this is my point.

You're a bit clingy and he's not that bothered about treating you the way you want to be treated

I can't tell if your clinginess is a result of his behaviour or you're normally this exhausting

Either way this is far too much drama and one of you should probably call it a day

You sound like a killjoy sorry!!

so you would be fine with ur fella staying at his friends house, not texting you and finding out a single bird is sleeping there too? if you are thats fine and i respect it, just after opinions

Yes I'd be fine with this, because I'm not an immature 16 year old high schooler.

And by bird I assume you mean adult woman?

@SpeckledJimess no i mean a fully grown parrot ;)

@SuncreamAndIceCream He has definately made me more clingy, he treated me fantastic and has massively pulled back because I didn;t do something he wanted me to do, which in turn has made me more clingy. I don't know why you would be with someone who you wasnt interested in pleasing though, unless it was deliberate.

Yep I’d be fine with that. Because I trust my partner.

You don’t. So move on.

This! I am REALLY curious!