'Forgot' to text me last night - find out this morning a single girl is at the house?

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Sorry I have rewritten this post as the last one was worded bad:

I just want some validation on whether i am in the wrong here please ladies and gents! happy saturday lol

Fiance was meant to be going to his friends house for the weekend with another friend and his friends wife. The friends wife didn't end up going because her sister is having relationship problems. Anyway, they went and last night I could tell my fiance was really drunk, videos on IG of shots, dancing etc. Still I kept my cool and didn't get annoyed. I am working away at the minute so communication really means a lot to me. Anyway, we ALWAYS say goodnight/goodmorning for 2 years we always have, rarely forget unless he is plastered drunk. I wake up this morning and no text, but I go onto IG and the wife has put a video up of them all laughing and joking setting off fireworks at 3am... so I call my partner at 3.30 (he is 5 hours behind) and no answer. must be asleep. So I send a argumentative kinda text saying thanks for the text, im going to do that to you tonight then if thats how we act (childish ino my bad)

He wakes up and automatically starts on the defensive saying i called him in the middle of the night (3.30 and he went to bed at 3 is hardly middle of night) and that im crazy blablabla its his friends sister, and is he not allowed to be around his friends mum who is 60 now and "do i hear myself" i reiterate he didnt text me and he always does and he says he didnt because i was asleep and he just forgot. made me feel better :/ not

Anyway I just go on the girls IG and shes deleted all photos of her bf so completely single... great! he is staying there again tonight (even tho he said he might be back friday night or saturday morning) and when i ask why he wouldn't just spend the day there and come home he said because he planned to stay. Now, I am planning to go over my friends house and I might stay over, and he really doesn't want me too and said stupid things like "good go share a room with one of her male friends". I don't see the difference, if he is around females then surely i can stay at my friends house with males around?

Am I wrong? Should he compromise and come home to please me? should i force him to come home? he wouldn't anyway. I feel i am never listened too, am i being unrealistic though with this example and being crazy? All i wanted was some validation and an apology, he said why would he apologise when he has done nothing wrong and now saying i ruin everything i dont want him to ever have fun...

Do yourself and him a favour and dump him.

way too much drama.

thanks but i was after an opinion on whether i was over reacting/in the wrong

On all levels that's exhausting.

lol sorry for the too much information. do you mean I am or he is?@TroysMammy

I don't remember anything when I'm drunk let alone sending a text so think you are over reacting.
You shouldn't presume this single woman fancies your partner either and if you don't trust him then dump him.
Go to your friends house and enjoy yourself!

It's Friday BTW!

Sorry I have rewritten this post as the last one was worded bad:

This one's not a lot better tbh. You are making a mountain out of a molehill and antagonising him.

You're exhausting. He's shady. Just end it now.

Either he loves you and wants to be with and is fundamentally decent man or neither is true. You can't force him to be a better man. If you don't trust him, ask yourself why? Is it your issue or are you listening to your gut? Removing him from this one woman certainly doesn't solve or answer anything. If he's a scumbag he will just find another woman.

Christ. He's juvenile and antagonistic and you're juvenile and needy.

End it.

@Ubugly this is the thing HE SAID HE WASNT EVEN THAT DRUNK!! lol in the video for the fireworks he literally seemed fine!! xx

I’d be dumping you if I was him and you don’t trust him and want to control him. It’s a terrible excuse for a relationship that you have.

You're both exhausting IMO.

Do you have to live your lives via Instagram?

@blacksax so you would be fine with ur fella staying at his friends house, not texting you and finding out a single bird is sleeping there too? if you are thats fine and i respect it, just after opinions

I can’t really tell if he’s done anything wrong but YABU. If I was staying at a friend’s house and you were bugging me like that I’d be really annoyed. You clearly don’t trust him so why don’t you put both of you out of your misery.

It sounds like you don’t trust each other around members of the opposite sex. That’s not healthy. It’s not a dynamic I have in my relationship/friendship group, but I’ve seen it among others. Is it normal for you? Do you have a kind of divided girls/lads culture among your circle? Even if that’s the case, I’d say it’s not good. I’d trust my partner in any situation - if he didn’t text me I’d just assume he was asleep. I can’t imagine the stress otherwise and it would be a sign things are very wrong for me.

@Icanttakethisanymore so his quote is he trusts me, but not other guys, which is why he doesnt like me going to bars etc. i think this is why im super annoyed because he doesnt like it when i do stuff eg he told me not to stay at my friends tonight. likewise i trust him, but not other girls.

@EveningSpread thank you, i think its more that it was really unusual for him not to text me, and when i asked him bout it rather than just say sorry i was drunk or forgot, it was exuses like well you're asleep, when that has never stopped him ever before.

How old are you?

You're being OTT OP. Sounds like you don't trust each other and the drama is just so immature.

I think you’ve overreacted if i’m honest. You’ve said that he sometimes forgets when he’s on a night out, it’s been one night and he’s with his friend and friend’s family.

You’ve started off an argument and got annoyed that he’s argued back so i‘m un sure what sort of response you were expecting!

It sounds like you’re quite insecure about him going out, is there a reason for this?

I think you both need to grow the fuck up. You sound like a teenager.

There's no point in him or in this relationship.

He's a drunken idiot who acts dodgy around women and tries to control you and dictate who you can and can't see (probably because he's a cheat who judges others by his own behaviour).

It's no fun, end it.and the misery.

My opinion: go away

He deserves better.

Dump