how can I force H to support my financially in giving up work

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that's if. He doesn't want to. we have split finances. I already only work part time as DC1 has complex SN. I manage by having my part time salary and child benefit and their PIP. However, DC2 is unwell and will in all likelihood not be able to return to school soon. Too many appointments, I will not be able to carry on working and my only income will be carers allowance (£81 weekly). H earns too well for UC. I cannot pay my share of the bills on that. I have no family, no friends and no support network. What do I do? I have some saving but they will not last long. I need to gain access to his salary. how can I legally force him to share?

Don't reply, just take the advice. Go to Women's Aid, the Citizens' Advice Bureau, get a solicitor and kick this free-loader out of your life. You will be much happier and so will the DCs.

If you separate, as you are on carers allowance you will be able to get other benefits, Universal credit, including housing element to pay or help pay your rent. Being a carer you will not be expected to get a job, it’s not like being on jobseekers.

I'm so sorry OP. You must be trying so hard.

He really doesn't see you as a team at all. He's on his own team, which just consists of him.

He holidays alone etc as he can afford but I cannot

Wtf?? You have children together! Does he know what family even means? He's treating you like some kind of abstract carer, instead of their mother and his wife!!

Who knows what this nasty selfish monster might say or do?

He hardly sounds like the kind who will freely accept it if she says No - even if divorce was on the horizon.