Is he cheating

[Lostandconfus3d]

Is he cheating?

My partner (M50) has been acting weird towards me (F37) for a while. Sex hasn’t been as frequent. He goes between being lovely to acting like he doesn’t want me around and snapping with me.

A couple of weeks ago I found viagra in a suitcase he uses when we travel or he goes away for work trips. There was only 1 left in the pack of 8. I questioned him on this and he blew up claiming he uses them for me when he has had a few drinks and can’t preform. I cannot think of one occasion when he has been drunk where he could have taken them and if he did it didn’t work!

I chose to rug sweep thinking maybe he was telling the truth or I was mistaken. Last week he was being super off with me didn’t want me around. He told me Thursday night he was having an early night and said he would speak to me the next day. When I woke to message him in the morning he had been online at 3.13am although he had told me he was sleeping by 10pm. When I asked if he slept well he said he went straight to sleep after he said goodnight.

I went to his house the next morning and all of my possessions were “hidden” in the spare room with the door closed. Shoes, clothes everything. He said he was tidying my mess and not to over think. I then seen 2 bottles of wine, a bottle of Prosecco (which he doesn’t drink) and several beers in his bin. It’s making me question is he cheating? I never mentioned the drinks I did ask again if he slept well or if he had been up late and he was adamant he went straight to sleep.

Has he been taking the viagra for someone else? Hiding my belongings when someone else is coming over to stay up drinking with him all night??

I will add he has previous for EA/possible kiss/seeking validation which I discovered by snooping a few months back and he promised he would never hurt me this way again. I’m so confused

You have a glorious opportunity to get out now and change your life for the better. Grasp it with both hands. In a couple of years time you'll be congratulating yourself. You know you will. Just take that step or you'll be in a worse situation going down the line.

Yes.

He's an.narcisttic like my ex was. Leave and don't look back. And trust me he will be back and trying everything to get you back. But it won't be genuine he will just miss all the things you do for him. Stop wasting your time, you have one life and its too precious to be wasted by a turd like him. You are with him but yet all alone. His family as much as nice they are, they are his and the loyalty are with him. You need to find love, most importantly love yourself. I have been there, its nit easy. I would also recommend therapy

This isn't correct. Best years are from 40. You've got a few years to prepare. Please leave this toxic man immediately

He's the failure, as a partner and as a human being. The only way you can fail in this situation is by staying with the bastard.

Leave!!!!!!!

He has no respect for you. He's cheating literally in your face.

Please please dump him - he’s not worth your time or love. Your been taken for a ride!!! He clearly shagging around - get yourself an STD check too.
Hes a selfish selfish man - STOP wasting your years on him. 🌺

So he could possibly be sleeping around with randoms while you are looking after HIS grandkids.?
Do the right thing and leave this arsehole

Please use weed killer on his garden before you leave the piece of shit.

Ironically he’s asked me to do his weeding and paint his fence before he returns on Thursday 🤣

Weed killer on the plants cheating cunt on the fence in paint 😂 you did as you were asked or maybe you misunderstood like he did when you asked him to be respectful. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Every update gets worse. Hes an absolute piss taker with no shame.

Honestly weed killer is a perfect parting gift to the CF

Oh yes spell out C U N T in weed killer on the grass before you leave

This is so far removed from being funny. He considers you his skivvy and he doesn't even try to hide it. I really hope you dump him immediately and get therapy for yourself. There is something in you that very much needs help considering you've allowed yourself to be so disrespected and devalued by him.

This has got to be a joke already! Do you polish his shoes and iron his underpants too?!

I am very much an acts of service person. I do for everyone. But I didn’t realise how bad I had actually got

I do all his household stuff and “life admin” as he calls it. He works hard and claims not to have time for this stuff

I think maybe because he has dangled the we may live together carrot for so long I thought if I show him how much I can do for him then he will see the benefits of having us live together. But I’m actual fact he’s getting all the benefits without the commitment of me living there

Oh I'd weed the whole fucking lot and I'd paint his fence alright what a pisstaking cunt. It's really obvious what he sees you as.

Stop running your own personal charity for this totally ungrateful, selfish man and be charitable to yourself for once. The only thing in the entire world that's keeping you in that utterly shit, dissatisfying, abusive relationship is you. You are being your own worst enemy.

Tough shit that’s his problem. You’re not his unpaid PA/housemaid/child minder.

Honestly he’s done such a number on you to ever think this is normal.

I don’t use this word lightly but he’s an abusive cunt. He not not physically abuse you but his behaviour towards you is fucking disgusting. Hrs treating you like something he’s found on the bottom of his shoe - he doesn’t love respect or even like you. Don’t waste another day on this vile wanker. Stop laying down like a doormat and WALK

Nah, I'm starting to think this whole thing has gotta be a wind up!!!

It's like modern slavery or some sort of d/s relationship.

Yes, that's the idea.

OP you need to do some inner searching. Are you so frightened of being alone that this vile douchebag is a better alternative?

Is he so hugely rich or astonishingly handsome that you can overlook the fact he doesn't even like you and to hang around like the unpaid help?

I say this not to be harsh, but because you really do need to question what on earth it is that worries you that this would be "over for good" as opposed to running as fast as you can away from this utter dog shite of a human.

Believe me it’s not a wind up. It’s ten years of a shit relationship. I’m that time I have lost both parents (both in their 40s) and he has been my only constant. I’m only realising on speaking here how bad it actually is

WTAF!!!😳 He’s the gift that keeps on giving this one isn’t he!!
Jesus Christ OP, surely you have now convinced yourself that you are leaving this fucktard ….without any further delay!