He has just told me to F off

[Confusedandconfusedandconfused]

Partner of 1.5 years, we are away together for a few days.

He gave me some feedback based on a job I am applying for and it bruised me. I asked if we could speak back in the room rather than in a public place and we haven’t been speaking for the last couple of hours. I’m feeling stressed as have an upcoming interview and the atmosphere is not good.

We had dinner plans and I just said I wasn’t feeling up to it. I have also had another rejection for a different job I was applying to and feeling quite low.

He has stormed off out of our hotel and shouted at me to “fuck off”. I fully intend to.

What do I do now? We are in a tiny village.

He is otherwise supportive kind and patient but swearing at me is a red flag and I don’t want to continue the relationship.

I imagine the holiday was booked before the interview came up as its not exactly conducive to a holiday. I took this post seriously, took the piss, now take it seriously again. Try and get some sleep, poor lass doesnt deserve the hate.

You missed, "I said he hadn’t done anything and I was just feeling a bit stressed / not up to it." Which was mature and communicative

Mature and communicative? It was a lie. Sulking/being in a strop and denying it, is a massive red flag.

My husband and I have been together 15 years and during arguments have occasionally told each other to fuck off. I don’t think it’s that big a deal in and of itself… I mean it’s not great but not worth throwing an otherwise sound relationship away for. However you sound like you aren’t getting on and possibly you are a bit hard work? So maybe just end it.

I think I'd have had enough with you by that point as well, sounds like you were sulking

Do you seriously not think you are being childish? It's a word he said in frustration. I think you owe him an apology for ruining a good holiday.

Your behaviour sounds worse with each post.

Have you apologised for your behaviour today? Including your strops, ruining the evening and cancelling dinner?

I honestly think you should split up with him. This all sounds very much like hard work.

I’d have told you to fuck off too tbh, but I get the shock and well done on boundaries. Good luck on the job.

Yes, she does.

You are the one that caused the tension and bad atmosphere in the first place. No, he shouldn't have sworn at you - but why are you focusing on his reaction to you upsetting him instead of your own behaviour? You are the one who should be apologizing first.

You had not just felt quiet - you were sulking after prompting him for the critique, ruining what otherwise should have been a nice night, and he was absolutely right to call you out on this.

You just keep escalating it. But if you want to leave then do so...but you need to realize you initiated this argument and made him feel bad before he got fed up and reacted to it. The person that instigated the argument should be apologizing first, IMO.

I agree. Feel abit sorry for him. I guarantee he does the running and is the first to apologise. Just get that impression.

You say that you have not been easy to live with for the past few months, what's been going on?

at the risk of adding to your misery you sound very high maintenance, highly sensitive and very self absorbed. I’m on Team Boyfriend! I do not blame him one bit for telling you to F off

Am awaiting the atypical mn post berating the last bunch of posters for not supporting our fellow female! 😆

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Now you're just being ridiculous. Sorry but it's no wonder he told you to fuck off 😆😆😆

Sorry @Confusedandconfusedandconfused but I'm team boyfriend too. I think you have some humble pie to eat...

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@MasterOfCake and OP should be apologising for now totally ruining the holiday with this escalation nonsense.

Thank you for the feedback! It’s clear I have a lot to change about how I behave! Not being sarcastic, being genuine. Clearly I have messed up.

You've gone to stay somewhere else abroad because you were told to fuck off?! Wow

Sounds like a pretty bad holiday to me!

To be honest, if I were him, I’d be dumping her.

This. 100%. And ending a relationship with someone who is generally kind and supportive because they lost it on one occasion and swore is overly dramatic.

Well he's right you are unnecessarily escalating this.

I think people look for any slight to walk away most people I know male or female would have told you to fuck off by now it's no different than saying oh piss off and going for some air.
If you don't love him anymore just end it but don't use this as an excuse.