Would you find this level of stinginess unacceptable?

[WhingeyStingey]

I've been dating a man for a couple of months. He has many lovely qualities but has described himself as "tight" with money (although will happily spend ££££ on his hobbies).

For reference, I'm all about equity and have paid half for every meal we have had in restaurants. I also bought our coffees on our first date as he had travelled further (only 25 minutes though in total).

I've noticed the following behaviours which, frankly, have turned me off;

1. The first time he came to my house he turned up empty-handed. We had decided to cook a meal together and I had bought all the food, nice Gu desserts and alcohol. He did message on his way to ask if I needed anything picking up from the shop for the meal but obviously I had already got everything by that point. If it were me, I would have come with a bottle of wine or flowers (if a female friend).

1. That same evening, we nipped to the local pub after the meal and he let me pay for the drinks (we just had one each). I offered to pay so I guess it was my fault but now feel he should have paid as I had laid on the all food/dinks at my house.

1. We went for a meal and then to a fancy cinema. He drove (20 mins). I paid for parking (£10!) . We split the meal bill. The cinema tickets were on me as I have a membership and get 6 "free" tickets a year. We had a drink in the cinema and again, he let me pay. He made some comment about how he doesn't generally fork out for coffee but he is always happy to accept one if someone wants to buy him one!

Maybe it's me that has the problem and I should just stop offering. I'm quite a generous person and don't usually keep score but I've started to with him due to noticing these behaviour patterns. Would you be bothered by his tightness?

She already has dumped him

He may chose to be a better person though and change. Worse case, some poor women who doesn’t know her worth will settle for him.

Very off-putting. It never ends well with people this stingy. If you got into a serious relationship or marriage. You can guarantee that if you ever split up you would be at a financial disadvantage. If it does get serious I would keep every receipt for anything you jointly use household stuff etc.

@WhingeyStingey
I know this a few months old but this thread had me gripped, I'm glad u dumped him.

I was seeing a guy years ago, he still lived at home so he always came to mine, I'd cook dinner etc. One time we got a takeaway and he let me pay for it. Another time we got a takeaway and I took £20 out my purse, he said its OK he'll get it. I put the money on the table instead of back in my purse. The next day when he'd left I noticed the £20 was gone. Another time we were out with friends, we were in a takeaway after the pub, I asked what he wanted and he said it's OK I'll sort myself out, I was mortified as all night myself and friends boyfriends had been buying drinks and he couldn't even ask me if I wanted something to eat. He also let the other boyfriends pay the taxi home.